Getting Over Your Ex

Apr 13
08:31

2011

Heather Kraus

Heather Kraus

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Relationships can be one of the most wonderful experiences in life but getting over them can be a horrific challenge. But if you don’t fall into bad habits and live your life the right way after a break up then it won’t be such a painful experience.

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As most people will tell you relationships can be the most rewarding but also the most devastating events in your life. They are wonderful while they last but when they end it can leave you with a broken heart. Relationships ending are always going to hurt but how much they hurt depends on you. It know it sounds cliché but its true,Getting Over Your Ex  Articles what you do, how you feel, how you act, after a break up determines how much it hurts and how quickly you get over it. Here are some tips that have been proven to ease the pain of a bad break up.

Keep Living: You have just experienced a break up and your first instinct is to spend the rest of your life in bed hoping the pain will eventually go away. Bad move, if you let yourself lay in bed you are just going to think about all the times you and your ex had together. You might be tempted to drown your sorrows in a drink, if you’re old enough, you might start looking at pictures of the two of you and a number of other debilitating habits. Either way you spin it planning to spend the rest of your life mopping in bed is the worst thing you can do after a break up.

Instead you need to keep living your life. Do things that make you happy, whether it’s seeing a movie, going to the park, spending time with your puppy, going shopping, spending time at the beach, going to a batting cage, spending a day going paintballing, whatever it is that makes you happy DO IT! Make sure that you get outside every day, go out to eat, and go out for drinks. Don’t overdo it and completely burn yourself out, just make sure that you don’t stop living your life.

Rely On Your Friends: Whatever you do DON’T PUSH YOUR FRIENDS AWAY, remember whether you’re a man or a woman relying on your friends can be one of your greatest assets after a breakup. Your friends care about you, they want to see you happy and they are going to do whatever they can to make that a reality. Some of your friends might want to talk to you about it, others are going to want to get back out there and spend time with people, whatever they feel is going to work best they are going to try. Either way at least you know that you have people who care about you and that’s bound to cheer you up.   

Start A Good Habit: This isn’t to say that you don’t already have a vast array of good habits in your life it’s just saying that adding a new good habit is going to greatly improve your mood. For example if you aren’t exercising daily then you should start. Exercise isn’t just about looking good it’s about physically and mentally feeling good. When you exercise it creates feel good hormones in your body and that can contribute to a huge improvement after a breakup.

It can be any good habit, whatever you aren’t currently doing in your life. You can start eating right, start going to a walk every day at the park, perhaps even eating dinner with your family one night a week. Just like starting a good habit will help ending a bad habit will also help.

There’s Always Someone Else Out There: That might not be something you want to hear after a break up. You may have been really in love with this person and you can’t picture yourself being with anyone but them. But this is something that I have come to believe about life, you can love more than one person in your life. You could be in love as many as three or four times in your life, but I believe there is only one person who is your true love. Keep this in mind, if this last relationship didn’t work out than he/she wasn’t the one. They were one love in your life but they weren’t the one. Once you find that one than nothing could break that love; you two are meant to be together for the rest of your lives.

Remember there is always hope and you have a bright future ahead of you. Just because this love didn’t work doesn’t mean you’re going to be alone for ever, far from it. Think of this ended relationship as a learning experience. Realize why the relationship ended, were mistakes made or was it just not meant to be? If mistakes were made learn from them so they aren’t made in the future. That way you will be stronger when your next relationship comes around. I’m going to leave you with this quote that is hard to follow but is something everyone should strive for.

“Love as though you have never been hurt”

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