How to Easily Start a Conversation With a Guy

Mar 17
08:52

2009

Joshua Uebergang

Joshua Uebergang

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Sick of not knowing what to say to a guy you think is hot? In this article you will overcome this as you learn what to say to start a conversation with a guy and keep the conversation going.

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The first technique I want to share with you is the situational starter. To use the situational starter technique,How to Easily Start a Conversation With a Guy Articles all you do is notice what is going on in your surroundings. Preferably make it something the other person is aware of or would be aware of once you use it.

In a shopping scenario, the girl could use things like the place being busy or how hot the weather is... Wait, I here you say "this technique sucks". These examples of the situational starter are very boring and probably would not be effective in the shopping scenario, but they can work when delivered by powerful nonverbal communication. Nonetheless, talking about the weather is really the simplest and worst use of the situational technique because it is very common.

I encourage you to be a little more creative in using the situational starter technique. To make better use of this technique, you need to use more in-depth situational influences for effective conversational starters. These involve discussions on more unusual things about the situation and rely on your creativity. Your conversations will be more fun once you follow this advice.

I will give you some examples of good situational starters the girl in our shopping example could use to start a conversation with a guy she likes. The girl could ask the guy how to locate a specific store or item; she could ask him where he got his hat because she would like to buy one for her brother (you can lie about it); given the guy looks about 20 years-old, she could ask him for his opinion on whether her 20 year-old guy friend would like an item she thinks this guy has an interest in. This last conversation starter is more of an opinion opener, another good technique to start conversations, yet it still involves reading the situation. Using the situational starter with creativity or an opinion opener, gives you all you need to start a conversation.

The last thing you must not do is break the cardinal rule of conversations: being boring. Do not, and I repeat, do not be boring. You can avoid being boring by avoiding the usual topics, like the weather. Talk about passions, interests, conspiracies, and relationships. It is pretty simple to avoid boredom by talking about topics that have emotion! By talking about topics each of you are emotionally involved in, you create an emotional link the two of you will remember.

This is only the start of starting conversations. Just like your conversations, don't let your learning fade away now.

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