Tinder Dating Secrets Proven Tips
You most likely have heard about Tinder recently. You may be already using the app. Either way; Tinder is changing things when it comes to meeting chicks. Tinder is a relatively new app that is blowin...
You most likely have heard about Tinder recently. You may be already using the app. Either way; Tinder is changing things when it comes to meeting chicks. Tinder is a relatively new app that is blowing up all around the world. Initially released in the summer of 2012, Tinder did not take off until the end of 2013. Initially, Tinder was first created for American university students.
The Dirty Dog:
This is the one that confuses me. Honestly, this one makes no sense to me. Although, maybe it should as women avoid logic like the plague. Still, there is no escaping that a picture with a dog is a huge hit on Tinder. Seriously, these chicks love puppies. If you have a decent picture of yourself with a puppy in it, use it. Possibly as your profile picture… Creating Your "About" Section Some dudes fill this section out, while some do not. Unless you are a male model looking dude, you need to fill out your “About”. The “About” section is not optional. Remember, we need to use all the real estate provided to us. The “About” section is important because girls on Tinder have so many options. While photos are certainly the most important part, if she is not sure about you, the “About” can get you the match. The key to the “About” section is to come off as normal, without coming across as boring. Humor is always a plus, but do not sacrifice your normalcy for a bad joke. The “About” should be short. Tinder allows you to write up to 500 words in your “About” section. After experimenting, I have found the sweet spot to be around 250-350 words.
In your “About” section you want to give a brief and entertaining description of your actual life. Writing about things like where you work/go to school, your goals, and your hobbies should be sufficient. Men who have gotten their Tinder pictures optimized, but are still finding it difficult to find women using Tinder must look into their “About” section. While your “About” section can be difficult to write, below are a few guidelines to show a bit of your personality in the right way and get the ‘swipe right’! Simplicity: Girls are not nearly as picky about your profile as they are your photos. Most chicks just want to see a bit of normalcy and humor in your profile. Nothing crazy is needed. Just write a bit about yourself. One key to remember is not to use quotes. Quotes are completely played out and unoriginal. Stability: We get it. You’re a bro. You like to party. And while enjoying alcohol or partying is fine, writing about liking to party and your oh-so impressive drinking habits is unattractive. Women want men who are not only stable, but different and interesting. Nothing says, “I’m a loser” more than your one and only hobby being drinking with your bros on the weekends. What Are Your Interests: Occasionally, men seem to think they can be incredibly descriptive on their Tinder bios. They may try to go into grave details about some irrelevant part of their personality or an inconsequential thing they enjoy. For example: There is nothing wrong about being a fan of Pad Thai at the local Thai place down the street, but chances are most women will have no clue where that is or they may have never tried Pad Thai. Try to be broad when describing your interests. Instead of writing about that Pad Thai you love of some much down the street (or anything specific), men could write about liking Thai food for instance. This is much broader and chances are more women will like Thai food than Pad Thai at a specific restaurant. A simple, “Thai food addict” or “Thai food is my favorite food group” are great ways to say this.
You stud, you!! So you have finally gotten some cute women to swipe right…now what do you do? You optimized your profile and now you have all these matches, but do you know what to do with these matches to get them out on dates? The key is to take advantage of the situation quickly. All cute women on Tinder find a multitude of guys to chat with, so you need to make your move quick. Rather than waste time thinking of a smooth opening message to send to that cutie you just matched with, this section will give some ideas and tips on you’re your opening messages should look like. Lets dive deeper: Again, Simple: This line actually works. Just try a simple: Hey my name is John.
It’s nice to “meet” you While not the ‘best’ opener for Tinder, the above is an ok way to open the girl on Tinder. This type of introduction gives the girl a sense of ‘realness’ and can make her feel like the guy is actually a normal dude rather than a horny bro tying to rush into a hook up.
Humor: Using humor in your opening messages on Tinder is a great way to go. One easy way to poke fun at a chick is by calling her out for something. For example, if the woman’s, “About” section shows she likes a sports team, you could send her something like this: Hey you seem cool, but you’re a Lebron fan…really?!
The above opener is somewhat humorous and will likely get a response from the girl. One thing to remember is to not call her out on something she could get offended by, like her religion: Hey you seem cool, but you’re a Jew…really?! Yeah, that’s just plain wrong and is not going to work. You will offend her and she will most likely not reply, and then unmatch you.
Let’s Hook up Opening: For some reason guys think that they can simply ask a girl if she is down to hook up in the initial message. Regardless if you believe this or not, most girls are that not easy and will not hook up with a guy off your first message. This is true no matter how great your photos are. Most times a guy asks for a hook up right off the bat, the girl will just unmatch him. The best advice I can give you here is just do not do it. It’s easy to get a phone number or even a date within a few messages once you know what you’re doing, but no way will a girl be that easy from the jump. Well, unless you are a male model with large muscles and a pic with a large bulge in it. If you must insist on using a “hook up” opening message, here is one I have had some success with: Hello Jane. If I were to ask you for sex, would your answer be the same as the answer to this question? One caveat for attempting the hook up style messaging: this style can work when late night messaging on weekends. Girls are drunk and horny. They just may take you up on your offer.
Examples Of The Best Tinder Opening Messages:
1 . Cute pics…What are you up to
2 . You seem cool. What are you up to
3 . Sweet baby Jesus! You are stunning. Tell your parents good job lol
4 . Clearly you have great taste lol what’s up
5 . Oh boy… You look like trouble!
6 . Looks like we both at least have one good thing going for us…excellent taste lol
7 . Serious question…how good of a cook are you?
8 . I’m not sure how the tinder dating protocol works so I’m assuming this is the part where I say “so where are you from? What do you do? What’s your favorite color?
9 . Should we start the quiz of interview questions to get to know each other so one day we can meet in person? Soooo what’s your favorite color? Where are you from? And what do you do? ;
10 . Are you into guys who are tall, dark, and handsome? Are you into guys who are handsome, athletic, and charming? Are you into guys who are intelligent, sexy, and funny? The Mid-Game Of Tinder After sending your opening message to a match, she will decide to respond or not. If she decides to respond, you enter the mid-game of Tinder. The girl has responded, but she has not agreed to a date or met up with you yet. Your goal here is to get her number and begin texting her. The problem with giving out to structured advice in this section is this: every girl is different. Each and every girl you interact with is going to expect a different amount of messaging and texting.
Each girl will expect a certain amount of comfort before she meets up with you. Due to the nature of women, the key in this section is: “Don’t scare the cat!” And yes, that is a metaphor. Attraction is primarily created in person. Combine this fact with the fact that she is already attracted to you as she ‘swiped right’ to your profile and you have a sticky situation… Therefore, we want to keep messaging and texting minimal. When messaging a girl on Tinder, you want to ask for her number and switch to texting after 5-7 messages back and forth. Then you can begin text messaging her. When texting your Tinder girl, you want to text her within twelve hours of getting her number. We are in an era where girls have the smallest attention span of all time. If you do not remain in her conscious, she will forget any attraction she has for you. Thus, we the old rule of getting a girls number and texting her 2-3 days later is ancient advice. You need to text her quickly. If you get her number on Tinder during the day, text her in 2-3 hours. If you get her number at night, text her the following morning. When you text her, introduce yourself again. Then after 2-3 text message exchanges, you need to ask her out on a date. Your goal is not to become her texting buddy, your goal is to get her out on a date and potentially, hook up with her. If she agrees to a date initially, you are set. If she does not, all hope is not lost. The key is how she turns down your date suggestion. If she simply says she can’t and gives no suggestion of a different time or date, she does not want to go out with you. If she declines, but offers a rebuttal you may still end up on a date with her sometime in the future. Lastly, one key when purposing a date is to purpose the date in the morning of the day of or day after. Never attempt to schedule a Tinder date 2-3 days out unless she suggest so.
Your Tinder Date
Scoring a date using Tinder is an accomplishment. Now that you have the date, just relax. The hard part is over, the girl is attracted to you and now all you have to do is not screw the date up. Tinder dates are a bit different than your average date. But, you are still dealing with girls. Just with a ‘Tinder girl’ the woman has never communicated with you in person. You do not know exactly what she looks like and you know almost nothing of her personality. Rather than worrying about anything, treat the date as a normal date and go through your normal date prep and planning. Then, follow these tips:
Typically, you want to keep the first Tinder date with a girl in public settings. You can easily get her over to your place quickly after the public meeting, but you don’t want to give your address to someone you have never actually met. Once you meet her out in public, you will be able to tell how likely she is to come back to your place. Typically, I have a drink or two with the girl at the bar and then invite her back to my place for some inconsequential reason. Sometimes it works, other times she sees through my bullshit.
When using Tinder, it can be awkward at first for a woman to go from behind the screen to a face-to- face interaction. Don’t worry about this. You may notice at the beginning of the date that a chick is a bit quiet. Therefore, the man needs to do most of the talking and make her feel comfortable. We do this to get the gal to open up. The best way to get a girl to loosen up is with a bit of humor. A man should act confident and relaxed. Making sure the lady feels like she has nothing to be worried about. Once she relaxes, you should try to get her to discuss more about her life. The more comfortable she is with you will determine if she goes home with you. In Conclusion By just following this report, you will set yourself ahead of the pack of wolves on Tinder. Simply use the tricks and tips laid out above, and watch you success on Tinder soar! You will have more matches and more responses, guaranteed. Combined these things and they add up to more dates…which equates to more hook ups! Just remember… With great power, comes great responsibility…aka wrap up ;) If you enjoyed this article, learn how to be a true alpha male at Pheromones-Planet.com.
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Mark Alexander is a write and based in Los Angeles, CA.