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Are you ready or not for a relationship?

Ready or Not ...by Kevin Skinner ... All right folks, itís time for a wake-up call. Are you ready for a ... or not? Do you even want to be in a ... During the pa

Ready or Not ...
by Kevin Skinner PhD
www.datingsmarts.com

All right folks, itís time for a wake-up call. Are you ready for a relationship or not? Do you even want to be in a relationship? During the past few years I have been teaching classes for singles. The problem I have observed the most often is people who are dating but arenít prepared for a relationship. The complaints I hear go something like this:

Jill: Iíve been dating Jack for two months now and finally he tells me that heís not ready for a relationship.

Friend: So what did you say?

Jill: Nothing -- other than tell him that he was a big jerk.

Friend: Oh!

Jill: I mean, canít guys get a clue? Hello! If you are really not ready for a relationship, donít date me for two months and call me every day only to tell me later that you arenít ready for a relationship! I just donít get guys.

Such dialogues are common. Perhaps you have been on the receiving end of such a relationship or perhaps you have been on the giving end. Whatever be the case, may I give you a suggestion? Look in the mirror and decide if you have what it takes to be in a relationship. Questions you might want to ask yourself would be:

a) Am I prepared for a long-term relationship? Or do I want to date lots of people? If you know the answer to this question, donít be bashfulótell the people you are dating what you are looking for.

b) If Mr. or Ms. Right came by today, would I let them into my life or would I ask them to wait until I had dealt with personal issues (e.g. like getting a divorce, putting my finances in order, or ending another relationship that I am not sure I want to end)?

c) Do I have the skills to succeed in a relationship? Be honest with yourself and others. Ask yourself these questions: ďHow do I make the people closest to me feel? Do I create an environment that draws people to me, or do I make the people around me nervous or uptight? Am I confident in my ability to create a healthy relationship?

d) Am I staying in a relationship with someone who isnít capable of taking our relationship to the next level? Sometimes people stay in dead-end relationships because something is better than nothing. This is a big mistake. Because you are so set on being ďINĒ a relationship, you ignore big problems. Look for more information on this subject in an upcoming article.

e) Do I know how to find and meet new people? If you want to be in a relationship, you are going to have to be a good salesperson. You are marketing yourself. The better you are at marketing yourself, the better chance you have of finding someone with whom you can share the rest of your life. Donít expect God to drop someone in your lap.

Marketing yourself DOES NOT mean making things up about yourself to fit what you think others want to see! If you donít market the REAL you, your relationships will most likely be dead before they ever really get started. Thereís more to come on ďMethods to Marketing YourselfĒ in another article that youíll be seeing soon.

So, are you ready or not? Consider your answers to the previous questions. If you are ready, move forward with confidence and a belief that you can create a successful long-term relationship. Successful daters are confident in themselves. They arenít too confident, but they send a message to others that they believe in themselves.

If you arenít ready, that is okay. Take your time and get yourself ready. Whatever you do, donít date someone or lead him or her on if you arenít ready for a commitment. When you are ready to be in a relationshipFind Article, you will be more comfortable with yourself and your ability to succeed in relationships.

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For individuals who are interested in testing their dating and relationship intelligence, www.datingsmarts.com offers a Relationship IQ test to help single people look at how they behave in their relationships. The Relationship IQ test covers 20 key categories that can make or break relationships. When you take the test you will be creating your own interactive book. Answers, ideas, and suggestions are given to you for each of the 140 items on the test.



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