Clutter Is Natural

May 7
21:00

2003

Stephanie Roberts

Stephanie Roberts

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Nature loves clutter. Just think of all the stuff that drops from trees, washes in on the tide, or is blown by the wind into your ... Birds molt, animals shed, snakes slither out of their skin,

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Nature loves clutter. Just think of all the stuff that drops
from trees,Clutter Is Natural Articles washes in on the tide, or is blown by the wind
into your backyard. Birds molt, animals shed, snakes slither
out of their skin, and they all just leave it lying there to
rot into the earth. Follow any two-year-old around for a day
and you'll see that we're not much better.

Living in clutter does not mean that you are a slob or an
undisciplined failure. It means that you are human, and your
origins are showing. Way, way back in the farthest branches
of your family tree, your ancient ancestors lived a somewhat
more hand-to-mouth existence than we do. Stocking up was a
smart thing to do when the antelope might not roam your way
again for a while, and surviving a cold winter depended on
how big a stash of firewood and dried berries you had in the
back of the cave.

The urge to acquire is instinctive and completely normal. But
the kinds of circumstances that could lead primitive man to
use up the provisions he'd stashed away are no longer much of
a threat to us. I am a big fan of Costco, eBay, and 24-hour
convenience stores, but we don't really need them, and the
effect on our closets and garages (not to mention our
waistlines!) has been catastrophic.

There seems to be an agreement in our culture that life was
"simpler" back whenever. Yearning for simplicity makes us
believe that our clutter is against the way things should be.
What was different in the past was they didn't have credit
cards, mail order catalogs, and the Internet. Most people only
bought what they needed and could afford. When was the last
time any of us did that?

In the span of just a few generations the cost of goods has
gone down dramatically due to mass production. Take a moment
to think about how much a basic T-shirt would cost if it were
knitted and stitched by hand. How many would you own then?
What if you had to make it yourself? Would you be so ready
to think you need another one in a slightly different color
or cut, or maybe with a little Lycra in it?

A common lament about contemporary social norms bemoans the
scattering of the nuclear family, the lack of a sense of
community, and the loss of spirituality in daily life. We feel
disconnected, stressed, empty, and we have been trained by mass
media since early childhood that having more things will make
us feel better. At some point someone told us "you can't buy
happiness," but we didn't listen, because everyone likes new
toys and buying things makes us feel secure, which is almost
as good as feeling happy.

So we shop and shop and buy more things for our homes (and our
cars, and our cell phones) until we're drowning in stuff. And
then we shop for things to help us manage the other things and
get them organized and neatly stored. Usually all that results
from this is an over-abundance of misused, unused, or
wrong-sized containers that metastasize into their own variety
of clutter.

Combine a new "pre-approved" credit card offer in the mailbox
every week, buy-in-bulk warehouse stores, easy internet
shopping, and cable shopping networks beaming bargains into
your television set 24 hours a day with the hard-wired delusion
that giving in to these temptations is a good idea, and our
once life-preserving impulse to stock up goes into overdrive.
The problem isn't that we are completely lacking in judgment
or self-discipline. The problem is that the primal parts of
our brains, where the compulsion to stock up while it's
available resides, is not programmed for a world in which
more than we could ever possibly need will still be there
tomorrow. And the next day. And the day after that.

Once we recognize this, it becomes possible to acknowledge
the instinctive urge to acquire and to use the more rational
parts of our brains to remember that although we live in the
midst of the greatest availability of consumer goods ever
known in the history of mankind, lucky us: we don't need to
buy it all today.

Conquering clutter happens in small increments on a day-by-day
basis, not in one great to-the-death campaign. It starts with
recognizing that clutter flows into our lives every day. Take
a moment to think about everything that came to your home or
office in the mail this past week. And the things you brought
home from the store. And the library books, videos, and DVDs
rented (and that will need to be returned in a few days or
weeks, another task made more difficult by clutter).

If you have school-age children, you may feel like you need
a bulldozer to deal with all the papers and projects that
arrive home with them every day. Not to mention the happy meal
toys. Then there are the take-out food flyers slid under your
door, the lawn-service brochure stuck in your mailbox, the
sale inserts from Safeway and Home Depot that sneak in with
the newspaper.

The prospect of dealing with your existing clutter is exhausting
enough. When you think about the fact that the incoming flow
of clutter is not going to stop you may feel an overwhelming
urge to just lie down on the floor and admit defeat -- assuming
you can find a large-enough area of uncluttered carpet to occupy.

Don't give up before you start! That feeling of overwhelm can
actually become the energy source that propels you to get out
of this mess and stay out of it. When you feel overwhelmed,
allow yourself to be with that feeling and explore it. Hidden
beneath the fatigue and despair is a deep desire to be free,
to become the highest expression of your true self, to live
your dreams and share your unique talents with the world. Tap
into that desire, and you will have the energy you need to
conquer your clutter.

The secret is to give up on the misguided notion that you can
do it all at once in one massive effort. Accept that it took
time for all this mess to accumulate, and it will take time
to winnow it out. Instead of waiting until you have the time
and energy to begin, start now. Begin slowly. Proceed gently.
Tackle one small area at a time. The clutter will dwindle and
your energy will grow. You will one day triumph over the mess.
You will live in a tidy and organized space. You will fall
back in love with your home, and incoming clutter will be
powerless in the face of your conscious, caring attention to
your physical environment.

© 2003 Stephanie Roberts

[excerpted from *Clutter-Free Forever*, Lotus Pond Press, 2003]

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