Four powerful steps to dissolve fears that hold you back

Aug 10
09:26

2012

Fabienne Fredrickson

Fabienne Fredrickson

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Do you have fears that are holding you back? Every entrepreneur experiences this at some point so there is nothing wrong with you if you encounter fear about your work and growing your business. But there are things you can do to help dissolve these fears so you can feel good about what you are doing. Here’s what I recommend to my clients.

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Do you have fears that are holding you back? Every entrepreneur experiences this at some point so there is nothing wrong with you if you encounter fear about your work and growing your business.

But there are things you can do to help dissolve these fears so you can feel good about what you are doing. Here’s what I recommend to my clients.

Step 1. Write down your fears.
Be really honest with yourself. Take out paper and actually write down your fears about growing your business. Is it the fear of criticism,Four powerful steps to dissolve fears that hold you back Articles the fear of success, or the fear of failure? Or things like “I’m not smart enough.” Or I’m not good enough.” Or “I’m not experienced enough?” Be a hard grader so that you get the fears out.

Step 2. Write down your beliefs.
On a separate piece of paper, write down all your beliefs about being successful, worthy, and deserving. Your complete honesty here is very important too. You might write things like, “if I become successful, I’ll become greedy.” Or if I do this my family will criticize me.” Or whatever comes up for you.

Step 3. Determine if your fears are valid.
Next, review each fear to see if it is truly valid. Ask yourself if it would really kill you. In other words, if this happened to you, would it annihilate you? Then see what makes you laugh.

You will start to see these fears are unrealistic and how they are often extreme. If these fears did play out, they would not kill you, but they feel as if they would.

The truth is you know down deep that you can do the work. You are good enough and smart enough. And you know that you deserve it.

Yet, there is a layer of self-doubt and the gremlins and monkey mind are getting in the way. It’s all based on the ego which uses fear to keep you in the status quo. But if you think about it, if you were to do whatever it is, would you die? No, it would just feel uncomfortable. When you laugh at these fears a couple of times, it helps you to realize how the fears are not valid.

Step 4. Determine if your beliefs are valid.
Now look at each belief and ask about its validity too. Again see what makes you laugh.

Essentially what you are doing in this exercise is dissolving your fears because they are not based in reality. It’s just your ego keeping you in the status quo.

Your Client Attraction Assignment
What fears keep you in the status quo? Take time this week to look at your fears and beliefs. If you are diligent about this exercise, you can to get it done in about an hour. It’s time to free yourself up and move forward. Trust me, you know you deserve it.