Saving a Relationship – The Secret Principles Revealed

Nov 25
08:11

2009

Relationship Rehab Coach

Relationship Rehab Coach

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How to instantaneously shift the momentum in your relationship crisis, stop the break up and reconnect with your partner using two secret principles!

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So,Saving a Relationship – The Secret Principles Revealed Articles has your partner blindsided you recently with one of these emotional nuclear bombs?

"I love you, but I’m not in love with you anymore!"

"I’m having an affair, but I still love you, and I don’t want a divorce!"

"I’m not sure what I want and I need time to think, so I want to separate for a while!"

While you’re picking yourself off the floor from the sucker punch that just knocked you into next week, rest assured that there is a way to save your relationship. And, I’m ready to show you exactly what to say and do to achieve that. But first, let’s talk about the elements of a relationship crisis. You see, even though a crisis seems to come on suddenly, in most cases it builds slowly over a period of time. One partner is completely unaware while the other partner slowly withdrawals. As the frustration mounts, the partner that has been withdrawing reaches a breaking point and drops one of the above-mentioned bombs on their mate. The bigger question is; why did they withdraw in the first place? Well, in all great and magical relationships exists a strong emotional connection. And, when that emotional connection begins to wane and is lost, the relationship falls off the cliff! And, the next all important question is; what destroys or undermines that emotional question. Well, quite simply put; fears and insecurities. Think about it! Have you been needy, clingy, smothering, mistrusting, jealous or controlling? How have you contributed to the failing relationship? OK! I can just hear you saying "What about what he’s done?" Well, don’t get me wrong. In all likelihood, he’s contributed to the failing relationship some way too. But, at the end of the day, you can’t change him! And, asking him to, or telling him to will prove to be utterly disastrous. But, here’s the good news; you can get him to change himself! You see, you have a choice here. Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy? If you’ve chose the later then come with me because I’m going to show you how save your relationship with my secret principles.

OK! There are basically two principles that we’re going to employ. The first is removing the hostility in a relationship. And to accomplish that we’re going to use what I call a statement of agreement. Remember, you can’t change him. So, you change the only thing you can – your side of the equation. You see, a relationship is like an equation. If you change one side the, other side will change. Don’t believe me? Well, let me ask you a question. Can you force someone to love you? No, of course you can’t! But, you can attract it from them! And, that’s exactly what we’re going to do here.

First, take some time to examine your negative contribution to the relationship. Have you been controlling, smothering, untrusting, critical, needy or jealous? These are the things that you must address in your statement of agreement. For your benefit, I have included an example of a statement of agreement.

I have been thinking about some things and I want you to know that I agree with you and I understand how you feel. I completely understand why you’ve withdrawn from the relationship. And, I honestly don’t blame you for not wanting to spend time with me. I haven’t been very supportive of you and haven’t been there when you needed me most. And, for that I’m sorry! I now realize that the lack of intimacy in our relationship has been largely caused by my own fears and insecurities. I know that you tried to be romantic on many occasions, but I’ve always managed to push you away. I know that you’ve tried to ask me for a change, and I haven’t given you one. So, I honestly don’t blame you for feeling the way that you do. And, I certainly don’t blame you for not wanting to be close to me right now! I just wanted to tell you that I understand.

Once you present the statement you must refrain from returning to your previous behavior. Keep your conversations short, happy and pleasant. And above all, do not talk about fixing the relationship – period! Bear in mind, that the statement of agreement is a tool that shifts the momentum in the crisis and buys you the necessary time to make the real changes. And that’s where the second principle comes into play. Now that you’ve shifted the momentum in you’re relationship, its time to turn the focus on your personal transformation. You see if you want to get him back, you've got to harness the power of feminine grace, which has everything to do with self-confidence and personal growth.

A Woman that exudes Feminine Grace is proud of herself. She respects herself and others. She is aware of who she is. She neither seeks definition from the person she is with, nor does she expect them to read her mind. She is quite capable of articulating her needs. A Woman that exudes Feminine Grace is hopeful. She is strong enough to make all her dreams come true. She knows Self love, therefore she gives love. She recognizes that her love has great value, but offers her love unconditionally without expectation.

Awaken your Feminine Grace, and you may be amazed at the results!

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Good luck and great love,

David Roppo

The Relationship Rehab Coach

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