Women: 5 Ways To Save Your Marriage

Is your marriage in trouble? No matter how bad,there’s always hope and ways to turn your situationaround. Here are five common ways to help create abetter, more loving and harmonious relationshipwith your husband.

1. Handle arguments differently
Every marriage and relationship has arguments, butit's how you handle them that's most important. AtJunior High School, I said 'no' to drugs. At mywedding altar, I said 'no' to fighting. 
Nancy Reagan's "Just Say No" anti-drug campaign was ahuge success. Kids made a verbal commitment and amental stance to avoid drugs before they were evenof the age to be tempted. When they were introducedto drugs, they knew they could "just say no" andnot feel alone. Fighting is NOT harmless. It’saddictive and, if continued, is likely to causeirreparable damage. Certainly there are times whenemotions get wrinkled, and the natural inclinationis to blow your top. I sometimes have to bite mytongue so I don't say something I would regretlater (since when is self-control a bad thing?)
Having a naturally calm personality has admittedlymade it easier for me to think before I speak thanit is for some people. But that shouldn't stopanyone from trying.

2. How to make him listen
In most relationships, a polite and sincere requestgets much greater results than if you yell, nag orcomplain. 
For example, the other day Athena saw mybath towel on the middle of our bedroom floor. Shesaid "you might want to hang up your towel or itwon't dry out in time for your shower tomorrow."When my clothes pile up outside of the hamper, shesweetly says, "it would really help me out a lot ifyou put your dirty clothes in the hamper." 
She was exhausted one morning and when Ashton (then five months old) began to stir, she turned over to meand asked if I wanted to "get up and have a littlemorning playtime with Ashton." That was a muchnicer way of asking me to help her out than saying,"Why am I the one who always gets up early to takecare of YOUR son? I think it is YOUR turn for achange." 
Athena always thinks of nice ways to ask me to help out or to stop doing something irritating.

3. Turn gossip and bashing into praise
No one's perfect. When wives get together and theconversation turns to complaining about “what theirhusbands do,” or male bashing in general, refuse toparticipate. 
It shows that you respect and value your husband. 
For a man, few things are more devastating than to have his wife criticize him in front of friends. Instead, when a "gripe session" gets going, make it a point to start sharing some of his good qualities. Usually, this alone will steer the conversation into a positive directionand help your friends to also praise their husbands-- which in turn helps them to respect andappreciate them more too. 
Knowing that my wife refuses to belittle me in front of friends makes me love and respect her even more.

4. Change your routine of life
After a few months or years, most couples get intoa comfortable pattern where they always do the samethings. Same dinner / movie dates, same sexualroutine and same behaviors. You can rekindle someof that magic and keep your marriage magical bysimply paying attention to these three importantareas:
1. Go on creative dates - agree to go out and dosomething you've never done before once every week,fortnight or month. It doesn't really matter whatyou do, but it's important to commit and do thisconstantly. Want some ideas? Go to a winery,museum, art gallery, carnival, the beach, or have apicnic in a park.
2. Spice things up under the sheets - try a newposition, technique or location. Wear some nicelingerie or introduce some new toys into thebedroom.
3. Change up the norm - buy him a gift just to say“I love you," give him a surprise quickie beforework, a nice massage, set up a scavenger hunt thatshows how much you care about him with a gift atthe end.

5. Face your money issues and debts
One of the biggest problems facing couples today isthe huge amount of debt they bring into theirmarriage. Not only are there more divorces, couplesare calling it quits much earlier in their marriagethan ever before. Here are some ideas to get yourdebt and money issues under control.
1. Sit down and prioritize all aspects of yourfamily budget together. Only when you analyze yourspending habits will you fully realize where youare wasting money. It’s a great opportunity to talkabout your goals and dreams.
2. Realize that frivolously spending money can be asign of disrespect for your marriage and mate.
3. If you would like a bigger diamond ring or afancier car, ask yourself why.
4. Take a quick inventory of all the items you ownbut could really live without. Consider how muchyou paid for them. What if you didn't buy thoseitems and had all that money in savings instead?Would it make a difference in how you view yourjob, your family and your future?
About the Author:
Michael Webb's latest book, "Getting Him Back"provides you with a step-by-step plan to get yourex-husband back, help heal your marriage and evenprevent a divorce. For all the details, visit
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