Can You Take Your Own Advice?

Jan 25
10:32

2010

Carolyn Ellis

Carolyn Ellis

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It never ceases to amaze me how wise and insightful people can be when it comes to telling other people how they should solve their problems. Yet when it comes to figuring out solutions to our own problems, we may muddle around in confusion and indecision.

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Let me give you an example. I was working with a new coaching client recently who was feeling overwhelmed. Work was unsatisfying,Can You Take Your Own Advice? Articles her children were acting up and the dynamics with her ex-spouse weren’t great. She felt unfocused and her self-confidence was plummeting quickly.

I asked her what she would tell a good friend to do if she was in a similar situation. She took a moment to consider what advice she would offer a friend, and quickly came up with the following. “I’d tell her to take first things first. She’s not getting enough sleep, so she needs to take better care of her physical health so she can think better and lower her stress level. Next, I’dtell her to ask her boss for a meeting so she can lay out the issues and solutions she’d like to propose at work. Then I’d tell her to block out some one-on-one time with her children. They seem to be acting out because she’s been so busy lately.”  She laughed as she realized she had just rattled off a recipe for her own success!

Here are some tips to help you take your own advice:

Tip 1 – Listen to What You’re Saying

When you’re offering advice to someone else, and you feel like you’re almost channeling the wisdom from the Divine, stop and take notice of what you’re saying. Check in with yourself and see if these solutions would be helpful for you in some way. Often the things we say that resonate the most within us, are pearls of wisdom and advice we ourselves should be following.

Tip 2 – Notice Any Themes

One of my teachers, Debbie Ford, would often remind us that the only person you can never see in the world is yourself. We need a mirror to see ourselves. A mirror isn’t just the big rectangle hanging over your bathroom sink. The most powerful mirrors in our lives are the people we hang around with. What themes or common issues are showing up for people you are in relationship with right now? Is there a theme of not asking for help or playing small? Notice the theme and how it might be needing attention in your own life right now.

Tip 3 – What Would You Tell Your Best Friend?

It’s often way easier to see a solution for a friend’s problem than it is for yourself. A great tip to break through any personal confusion you may feel is to imagine you were speaking to a friend who had the same challenge you’re facing. Take a few centering breaths and imagine what you’d tell your friend to do in this situation. Take good notes on what you’d offer as advice because you are actually giving yourself your own marching orders!

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