“Through our work, as well as our own marriage, we’ve learned that the way to inoculate your marriage against real stressors is to know that you can handle the tough stuff. And when you speak truthfully about difficult things and find the truth in strong disagreements, you will feel more confident that you can handle just about anything. This is the substance of extraordinary, enduring marriages: the passion, tenderness, and generosity that can only emerge when two people have achieved a high level of mutual honesty. Honesty with compassion can spark the growth that keeps a marriage vibrant.” –from their book “Tell Me No Lies”