Get An Ex Back - 5 Secret Tactics To Win Back Your Ex

If you are on mission to get an ex back then you may need to go the counter intuitive route rather than what you really want to do. In other words, do the opposite to what you're feeling.

The first mistake most people in this situation make is making it obvious to their ex that they want to get back with them. You're probably thinking "what's wrong with that?" Plenty and one of the first things that comes to mind is you're not giving your ex time to miss you.

By constantly "being on their hammer" about wanting to get back with them, then it's like being pitched by a pushy salesperson. How do you feel when you walk into a used car showroom or a major department store and someone walks up and starts sales pitching you?

Your defenses go up and you start to resist despite the fact you really want what they are telling you about. Does that make sense?

How To Get An Ex Back

Let's look at some of the things you need to do to get an ex back into your life.

1. By doing things that will make them think you are moving on is a great first step. In other words, you want to be seen as having fun again. Going out and enjoying yourself and being noticed by their friends means that this will get back to your ex. The point here is that if it seems you've moved on faster than they have then this may not sit right with them.

2. Be a friend to your ex. Let them know you are enjoying life at the moment but don't hammer home to them everything you are doing to be happy. This could make them a little jealous but also let them know that there's plenty to enjoy in life. By coming across as a friend in this manner will score you plenty of "brownie points." It shows you still care about them.

3. Although you are desperate in many respects to get back with them don't make this obvious. Send them a message after a few weeks asking if they are okay. Do this in the way a friend would. But don't give them the indication you want them back just yet. Maybe let them know you had a blast the other night with a group of friends.

4. Be a listener when you talk with them. This is a powerful strategy when trying to get an ex back. Listen to what they have to say and be genuine about it. This will have the effect of them valuing your ability to listen to them. Suddenly, you're an important person in their life again!           

5. Do this for some time. You are redeveloping a relationship with them. Even though your aim is to get back together with your ex the power of this strategy, although a little sneaky is the value they place in your friendship. You are different than when you were together and they like this side of you. Truth is, it's doubtful in many cases if you'll even need to make the first move!