Turning forty-four has been a journey of self-acceptance and joy. I have no plans for Botox, implants, or liposuction. Instead, I focus on living a balanced life, eating well, and exercising. That doesn't mean I won't indulge in a treat from Baskin Robbins or enjoy Mrs. Pillsbury's chocolate chip cookies occasionally. And yes, I do cherish moments with my significant other, even if my daughters might be reading this.
One of the most valuable lessons I've learned in my pre-menopausal years is the importance of moderation. Overindulgence, like eating a half-gallon of ice cream in one sitting or fantasizing about the 22-year-old cable guy, is best avoided. According to the CDC, maintaining a balanced diet and regular physical activity can significantly improve overall health and longevity (CDC).
At a recent family reunion, I decided to join the younger crowd in jumping rope, both single and double-dutch. For a moment, I felt like I was 18 again, much to the amazement of my youngest sister, Detra. However, my ankles are still recovering, and high heels are off the table for now.
Yes, I am a statistic—a single, divorced Black mother who raised two beautiful daughters. Both of my daughters have college degrees, and their father has always been supportive. We married young, at nineteen, and had our first child at twenty and our second at twenty-two. Despite the challenges, everything worked out well, and I am grateful for that.
Convincing my daughters, now 22 and 24, to wait before starting their own families is a bit complicated, especially since they both have serious partners. But I remind them that times have changed, and there's no rush for grandbabies.
As I navigate my forties, I've noticed subtle changes like the formation of jowls, dimples above my knees, and the loss of my 20/20 vision. A recent visit to the eye doctor revealed that I might be at risk for glaucoma, a condition that affects over 3 million Americans (Glaucoma Research Foundation).
Despite these changes, life is good at forty-four. Embracing who I am and the life I've built brings immense satisfaction. According to a study by the National Institute on Aging, people in their forties often experience a sense of fulfillment and well-being (NIA).
In conclusion, turning forty-four is not just about aging; it's about embracing life with all its complexities and joys. Here's to living well and loving every moment of it.
