Using Raunchy Sex Talk in a Relationship - What is it and How Do You Do it Properly

Oct 14
07:13

2010

Rufus Steele

Rufus Steele

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Is there a difference between raunchy talk and dirty talk? If there is - how do you make sure you use one and not the other at the right time?

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Raunchy sex talk always gets a bad reputation. Most think it belongs on those 900 number phone calls and not in serious relationships. But their reason for not using sex talk may come from a position of misinformation,Using Raunchy Sex Talk in a Relationship - What is it and How Do You Do it Properly Articles lack of confidence, or personal beliefs that have been hammered into them since youth. Used in the right circumstances, raunchy sex talk can actually boost confidence, strengthen the bond between partners, and take sex to a whole new level of passion.

In most relationships, the discourse may appear to be a bit dirty, but in actuality it's quite natural. Most talk about what they like during sex and get into specifics while in the bedroom, but they wouldn't consider talking like that on the couch or out in public, like in a bar or grocery store. We're not suggesting that raunchy talk should become a public performance. There's always room for discretion when it comes to our personal sex lives. We simply believe that moving the dirty talk into a public venue can add spice to the conversation, thrill, and get one's adrenaline pumping so the soon-to-follow sexual encounter will be multiple times better than without.

So what is raunchy sex talk? It could be telling your partner the intimate details about your fantasies involving them, like a tub of Jell-o, and a tongue that never quits. It generally revolves around sex and has the details one tends to think only in their imagination. We don't typically share these types of thoughts with anyone. This is the reason raunchy sex talk can be so beneficial to a healthy relationship.

It's showing your partner a side of you that no one else gets to experience. They know they have you all to themselves when you share how much you dreamed of them that day at work. Men and women love to know they're being thought of by their lover when they are not together. It's reassuring and comforting. With sexual fantasies playing out, it's passionate and romantic too.

Those who have never talked dirty to their partner should give it a chance. The talk doesn't have to be about anything other than what they feel, think about, and want to do with their partner. Imagine telling them how your fantasy might play out. You picture them in a swimsuit, coming out of the water with their hair glistening. You're on the deck sipping a mixed drink and soaking in some sun. They walk up to you and simply undress, and then you recount the rest of the fantasy to them using very detailed language. To really get into raunchy sex talk you have to embrace the details.

Paint your partner a picture of the situation and then push their buttons by accentuating key parts and touching them in their favorite areas. Before long, sex talk will be a natural part of the relationship just like holding hands.