Dealing with a Breakup

Dec 7
10:50

2009

Andrew Hunter

Andrew Hunter

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Dealing with a breakup is no small task to do. Most people will feel incredibly crushed when they first find out about the breakup. Trust me, I've been through all of that. There are so many things I've done in a hysterical frame of mind that I wish I hadn't. This is clearly not the right way to deal with a breakup. Don't do things that will just drive your ex away. Instead, trying doing a few of these things to improve your situation.

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Dealing with a breakup is no small task to do. Most people will feel incredibly crushed when they first find out about the breakup. Trust me,Dealing with a Breakup Articles I've been through all of that. There are so many things I've done in a hysterical frame of mind that I wish I hadn't. This is clearly not the right way to deal with a breakup. Don't do things that will just drive your ex away.  Instead, trying doing a few of these things to improve your situation.

Don't Become Vengeful -- I know you might be mad, but don't do something that you'll regret later. Don't try to make him look bad by writing negative things on his Facebook wall or lying about him to other people, and don't try to make him feel jealous by hooking up with someone else too soon. You don't really want to become that type of person. You will really regret doing all these childish things down the line. Just take some time to cool off and don't contact your partner for any reason. This can allow you take a more view of how things stand. It is good to begin practicing observing what your motives are before you do anything.

Learn What Happened -- Take the lessons you can from your failed relationship. Could it be that there is some part of yourself that you held back?  Maybe you could have been more honest about your feelings or more emotionally open?  You want to make sure that you are not plagued by the same problems in your next relationship whether or not you and your ex get back together.

Focus on Something Different -- Keep your mind off your breakup in the beginning when feelings are still fresh. It is not an easy thing to pull your focus away from the feelings of rejection. It isn't good for you you to spend so much time fixating over one thing. So, get out and spend some quality time with friends having a good time. Or go out and try something you've never done before and take up a hobby that fascinates you. Doing this will help you work on becoming a better, more well-rounded person while keeping yourself from becoming too depressed.

Learning to cope with a breakup is probably one of the most painful things you will have to deal with in your life. Keep your head up and steer clear of doing petty thing that you will wish you hadn't done down the line. Keep yourself in the company of close friends that will help you feel better and do things that you like doing. Try to see this as a chance to better yourself and take things to a new level. This is the best frame of mind you can have about a breakup.