I know some of you lovely individuals have succumbed to the powerful illusion that your happiness depends on having a relationship. That’s when the most common mistakes are made.
It may be a cliché, but it’s true that you must first be happy with yourself before you can be happy with anyone – in any relationship. Learn to be happy with your own company, then find someone who fits your mold of happiness. Too often, people spend less time on self-development, believing that a relationship will complete their happiness, rather than complement it.
I know some of you lovely individuals have succumbed to the powerful illusion that your happiness depends on having a relationship. That’s when the most common mistakes are made, such as entering into a relationship with the wrong person and trying to change that person to fit your concept of a happy relationship; or alternatively, trying to change yourself or adjust your own expectations for the sake of keeping the relationship afloat.
Saying this however, it can be great if the changes you make are actually serving you well and making you a better, happier person. But if it isn’t doing that, and is only causing you pain, then you’re compromising your own happiness.
Though being in a relationship can certainly enhance your life, it should not be something you try to attain as a short cut to happiness. But if done so, it could serve as a short-term solution to happiness, however, it might not last the test of time.
Bottom line: The way you behave in a relationship is influenced by the relationship you have with your Self. So if you want a healthy, happy relationship with someone, then first work on you – spend time to develop that same kind of relationship which you desire, with your Self.
If relationships affect your health, what kind of partner should you choose?
Since relationships can affect your health, wouldn’t it make sense to choose a relationship that predominantly makes you feel good inside – choose to be with someone who adds to your life, not take away from it? So, how do you choose? Where do you start? And if you're already in a relationship, what can you do to make things better?
Being “turned down” is not so bad after all
Being turned down may have a negative connotation, but it is all in your perception. At closer look, it really is more of a blessing in disguise than anything. Here’s why.
Why is it sometimes so hard to do what’s best for you?
When you start to realize that you may very well be in a relationship with the wrong partner for you, how do you muster up the courage to let go – to do what’s best for you?
