Penny Best

Happiness begins with you!

I know some of you lovely individuals have succumbed to the powerful illusion that your happiness depends on having a relationship. That’s when the most common mistakes are made.

It may be a cliché, but it’s true that you must first be happy with yourself before you can be happy with anyone – in any relationship. Learn to be happy with your own company, then find someone who fits your mold of happiness. Too often, people spend less time on self-development, believing that a relationship will complete their happiness, rather than complement it.

I know some of you lovely individuals have succumbed to the powerful illusion that your happiness depends on having a relationship. That’s when the most common mistakes are made, such as entering into a relationship with the wrong person and trying to change that person to fit your concept of a happy relationship; or alternatively, trying to change yourself or adjust your own expectations for the sake of keeping the relationship afloat.

Saying this however, it can be great if the changes you make are actually serving you well and making you a better, happier person. But if it isn’t doing that, and is only causing you pain, then you’re compromising your own happiness.

Though being in a relationship can certainly enhance your life, it should not be something you try to attain as a short cut to happiness. But if done so, it could serve as a short-term solution to happiness, however, it might not last the test of time.

Bottom line: The way you behave in a relationship is influenced by the relationship you have with your Self. So if you want a healthy, happy relationship with someone, then first work on you – spend time to develop that same kind of relationship which you desire, with your Self.

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