Couples will admit that it takes conscious effort to nurture a healthy relationship. During those first exciting stages of dating, everyone is on their best behaviors. It can be hard to find fault with one another. Everything feels perfect...
Couples will admit that it takes conscious effort to nurture a healthy relationship. During those first exciting stages of dating, everyone is on their best behaviors. It can be hard to find fault with one another. Everything feels perfect.
Those minor character flaws may be perceived as endearing or quirky in the beginning. Six months later, they can be seen as perpetually annoying habits or unbearable irritants. Lol. Either way, nothing’s perfect and that’s what makes it “perfect”… (I know…it’s a paradox. But life itself is one big paradox – if you haven’t already noticed).
My point is this: In order to realize ‘perfection,’ you must first experience imperfection. It’s the same with saying you cannot know ‘happy’ if you’ve never known ‘sadness.’ One side of the equation cannot exist without the other. That’s the paradox of life!
So don’t get too caught up trying to define a “perfect relationship” or compare your relationship with others to get some sort of validation. No two couples are the same. What works best in your relationship may not necessarily work well for another couple.
So remember: Perfect is nothing but a word to describe what appeals to you most. We say it’s perfect when things go our way. We say it’s perfect when two people come together happily. So you see, it’s just a word associated with being content.
Simply put: If you’re in a relationship that puts you in a good state of mind, then, you are in a ‘perfect’ relationship. And if you’re still looking for that ‘perfect’ person, keep in mind they don’t need to be perfect in all that they do, just as long as they're a perfect fit for you.
If relationships affect your health, what kind of partner should you choose?
Since relationships can affect your health, wouldn’t it make sense to choose a relationship that predominantly makes you feel good inside – choose to be with someone who adds to your life, not take away from it? So, how do you choose? Where do you start? And if you're already in a relationship, what can you do to make things better?
Being “turned down” is not so bad after all
Being turned down may have a negative connotation, but it is all in your perception. At closer look, it really is more of a blessing in disguise than anything. Here’s why.
Why is it sometimes so hard to do what’s best for you?
When you start to realize that you may very well be in a relationship with the wrong partner for you, how do you muster up the courage to let go – to do what’s best for you?
