How to Get Back With Your Ex Girlfriend Even If You Have Been a Prize Jerk

Well the first thing you should do is to back off and give her some space. If you have been begging and pleading with her to take you back, you must stop this immediately. She is probably very angry and upset with you right now so begging and pleading and harassing her will only drive her further away.

You are probably desperate to tell her how sorry you are and you realize how wrong you were to treat her so badly and how you will change. But honestly she will not want to hear that right now. She probably wouldn't believe you anyway.

So is the situation hopeless? No. Will you ever get her to trust you again? Possibly, but it will take time, patience and a lot of effort on your part.

The second step you should take is to write her a very short note apologising for your behaviour and agreeing to the breakup. Be sure to send this note by post and do not be tempted to use it as an excuse to deliver it to her by hand as this will defeat the purpose of the exercise. When you ex girlfriend receives your note she will probably be very surprised and when you keep your word and stop harassing her, she will begin to feel much calmer. Backing off and agreeing to the breakup does not mean giving up. Once your ex girlfriend is given space and time apart she may start to remember the good times you had together. She may even begin to miss you.

The third step you need to take is to use this time to sit down and look at your behaviour and be really honest with yourself. Why did you behave so badly towards your ex girlfriend and are you sure you really do love her. If you decide you really do love your ex girlfriend and want her back, the only thing you can do is to play the waiting game and wait until she gets in touch with you. But don't just sit around moping and being pathetic because no one is not going to want someone who is negative and feels sorry for themselves. Use the time to improve yourself, spruce up your appearance and take up an interesting hobby or sport or learn a new language. When she next sees you again this will arose her curiosity when she sees how much you have changed for the better.

When you ex girlfriend does get in touch again or if you meet her when you are out, keep things friendly and casual. The worst thing you can do is to rush into anything. You have to regain her trust so tread very carefully and let her do all the running. Getting back with your ex girlfriend is not going to be easy but if you take it slowly, build back trust then there really is good possibility that you can get her back again.