How To Get Over A Broken Relationship And Stay Sane

If your partner has ended the relationship, you must obviously be feeling very upset and emotional and therefore it is hard to be rational and think straight. You probably feel very angry and resentful towards your partner for ending the relationship and if you do speak to them, it will probably end up in a huge argument.

Perhaps you feel they left you because of something you did wrong and you just want the chance to apologise and put things right. But if you are feeling desperate to talk to them, the chances are that you will only make matters worse because of your emotional state. If you ex left you because of something you did wrong, they are probably not in the mood right now to hear what you have to say anyway.

The best thing you can do for now is to put some space between you and your ex partner or at least keep contact to a minimum. If you try and talk to your ex partner while you are still in an emotional state you will be at a disadvantage and you could end up saying the wrong thing or end up looking too desperate and needy. Looking desperate and needy is not attractive and could repel your ex and push them even further away.

So give yourself a chance to clear your head and calm down. Have a good cry and let your feelings out. It will do you good to cry. Get support from your close friends and family so you don't suffer alone. Afterwards you will be in a much better position to see things for how they really are and make a rational decision about the future. But for now don't make any decisions about the future, just concentrate on healing yourself. You are the only person whom you have control over. You cannot change other people, but you can change yourself and for the better. So work on yourself so you are the strong and confident person. Do things that make you feel good about yourself. Go out with your friends and have some fun and a good laugh. Splash out on some new clothes and get a new image.

Once some time has passed and you get yourself in a more rational frame of mind, you will be able to take a dispassionate look at things and try to figure what went wrong in your relationship. If you decide that you want to talk to your ex partner to try and work things out, you will be in a much stronger position. Ask yourself, who would have the most success, an emotional wreak or a level headed person with confidence and self esteem? A confident person is definitely more sexy too.

Of course once you are feeling stronger and more confident, you may decide that the relationship break up was really for the best and want move on with your life. The world is a very big place full of other people and there are many possibilities out there for you. You certainly don't have to settle for second best or compromise yourself in any way.