... - To go on ... in spite of ... ... or ... to remain ... or fixed in a ... ... ... or ... to stick with ...
DEFINITIONS
Perseverance - To go on resolutely in spite of opposition, importunity, or obstacles; to remain unchanged or fixed in a specified character, condition, or position; to stick with something, especially something difficult or challenging
Being stubborn - Bring unreasonably or perversely unyielding; mulish; unyielding and unopen to reason; performed or carried on in an obstinate or rigid manner; difficult to handle, manage or treat
COMPARISONS
Going forward vs. Stonewalling
Working toward something vs. Refusing to do something
Having a positive goal vs. Having a negative goal
EXAMPLE
Henry Ward Beecher said, "The difference between perseverance and obstinacy is that one comes from a strong will, and and the other from a strong won't."
Selina persevered in her goal of becoming a teacher. She kept at it despite a lot of obstacles. At one point she had to stop and take a job to pay the tuition. At another time, her study was interrupted when her husband was transferred. To get her degree and become a teacher took a lot of time, energy and money, but she persevered and achieved her goal.
Evan was stubborn and withholding in his relationship with Esmerelda. He would not give her what she wanted under any circumstances. He would ask her where she wanted to go for dinner. She would say, “Mexican food.” He would say, “No.” She would ask him to suggest something and he would say again, “No, you choose.”
KEY POINT
It's good to persevere, and not good to be stubborn. When you persevere, you are working toward a positive goal that's attainable. You are flexible and creative in pursuing possible alternatives toward your goal.
When you're being stubborn, you're either being negative to yourself (refusing to give up when you should), or to others (refusing to do what they want or to give them what they want), or to something (being in denial and refusing to face the facts).
BENEFITS
When you persevere, you make things happen. When you're being stubborn, you don't allow anything to happen. Being stubborn accomplishes nothing.
RELATED DISTRINCTIONS
Being open to new possiblities vs. Saying no to new possibilities
Making suggestions vs. Just saying no to other people's suggestions
