Flirty Or Friendly How To Tell If She Wants You Or Just Wants To Be Your Friend

Has this ever happened to you?

You’ve been hanging out with a girl, you’re into her, and you think she’s into you. Then one day you make a move and she tells you she just wants to be friends.   You’re blindsided! Your ego is bruised! You wonder how you could have gotten this wrong!

What happened was you misread her signs.

And it’s not your fault at all.

Because the signs women give are super subtle and very hard to pick up on.  That’s why I asked my new Wing Girl, Marissa, to tell you how to tell if she wants you vs. just wants to be friends.

Marissa is awesome! She’s blond, she’s single, she gets hit onall the time and I guarantee you would want to date her if you sawher.

Who better to get advice from than a woman like her right?

FLIRTY OR FRIENDLY:HOW TO TELL IF SHE WANTS YOU OR JUST WANTS TO BE YOUR FRIEND

By Marissa Madsen from the 20s vs 30s webisodes

I totally get how men can be baffled when it comes to women. We’re pretty damn confusing.  When are we being flirty vs. just being friendly?

A couple of really important things for you to know is:

1. Women can flirt with you even if they don’t want anything more from you.

2. Women actually believe that men and women can be friends. Which means that you may have the intention of approaching her because you want to date/sleep/be with her but her intention is simply friendship. Just because she LIKES you doesn’t mean she’s ATTRACTED to you.

When a girl is flirting with you, she’ll give you “extras”: Extra long eye contact, extra touches, she’ll try to get into long conversations or find excuses to hang out with you alone.

She’ll find ways to show you she’s open to something MORE. For example, agreeing to your suggested plans or responding to your texts/calls promptly with more an “Lol” or “ha”.

If she’s just being friendly, she won’t give you the “extras”, just the “basics”.

She’ll be nice, even physically affectionate, she’ll hang with you on her terms… but that’s it.

Also, if a girl isn’t feeling it, but thinks you ARE, she’ll give you LESS than the basics, to make sure you get the message. She’ll be polite, maybe even proper with you. She’ll give you platonic hugs or even hold off from touching you. She won’t try to get you alone. She may even talk to you about other guys she’s interested in, which if nothing else has gotten the message across, should drive the point home.

I know you may think that these behaviors are tests, but they are definitely not tests or signs to pursue harder.

They are signs that she’s not into you.

Now, these are guidelines. Remember that each woman is different and has their own individual BASELINE for how she acts with guys. You want to get to know her so you can figure out her “baseline”.

If she’s super affectionate with all of her guy friends, a big hug from her is not an indication that she wants you.

If she’s comfortable around her other guy friends, but then gets shy and blush-y around just YOU, then you can take that as a sign that you have a certain effect on her.

Find out her norm so you can see where you fall on the spectrum.

I recently had a guy friend reveal his feelings for me. I was surprised; I thought he could tell by my signs that I wasn’t into him!

I even suspected that he was attracted to me, so I tried extra hard to get the message across… giving him less than the basics.  But still, he told me he was sure there was something between us: Because of how I connect with him in conversation, how much I enjoy hanging out with him, how I’m so sweet to him and laugh at all his jokes…

Not only did my friend not pay attention to my baseline (I laugh at a lot of people’s jokes…), he had a serious case of tunnel vision.

He only took what he wanted from our interactions, never paying attention to my signs: I didn’t make plans with him alone, I would tell him about other guys I was into, I didn’t give him extra affection… the list goes on and on.

By learning the signs that women give you, getting out of your tunnel vision, and being aware of her baseline, you will have the upper hand in avoiding these sticky situations. STOP wasting time on someone who doesn’t want you.

Be a savvy sign-reader and you’ll find someone who DOES.

Want to learn the 13 Signs Women give that tell you it’s on???

Read them here:==>http://www.winggirlmethod.com/13-signs-shes-flirting-with-you/