When You're Thinking About a Divorce

If you are thinking about getting divorced you should be consulting a divorce lawyer before you go any further with your plans to help you lay the proper foundation for a divorce. Thankfully we no longer live in a society with a social or court system in place that thwarts divorce efforts and most states recognize no fault divorce so there is no need to build a case of infidelity or abuse to get a divorce.

But divorce is still not an easy under taking even without these obstacles in place. Breaking up a family and a marriage can be devastatingly hard on everyone concerned but especially on the spouse who may not have wanted the civil action in the first place or the spouse left behind because their spouse intends to remarry.

In order to properly prepare for a divorce you need a divorce lawyer to help you, not only in understanding your legal rights and legal obligations but in ensuring you get the type of divorce you want. A lot of couples end their relationship in the extreme opposite way that they joined their lives together. And these extreme emotions can render even the most stable and level headed person into a childish and anger adult. Which means instead of a calm, business like divorce you end up replicating the movie, “The War of the Roses” and nobody won in that ugly battle.

Don’t get caught up in the semantics of an emotional divorce battle. The earlier you talk to a divorce lawyer, the better prepared you will be for ending your marriage as civilly as you would end any relationship. A divorce lawyer can help you be prepared for what you may end up losing such as a home, cars, boats and other toys and prepare you for what you should expect your final outcome to be in a divorce settlement.

Once you hire your divorce lawyer, take their advice on what you should and shouldn’t do in regards to your soon to be former spouse. Most likely your lawyer will advise you to limit contact and the potential for conflict and to document all activity on both of your part as it relates to your divorce.

Your lawyer may also advise you to make a list of assets: bank accounts and other financial information before you proceed with a filing so the divorce attorney and the courts can better understand what assets are at play. Once your spouse is served with divorce papers your access to this information can become greatly hampered at best.
Your lawyer will probably also advise you in regards to what assets that you currently own that are at risk in a divorce and will work with you to document a full list of those assets.

Be prepared to take some hits financially. Divorce is never easy, cheap or painless but once you pay the piper, you are free to rebuild your life and your list of assets back up again.