One of the potentially worst problems that can arise in any relationship is poor communication. Learning to solve communication problems in a relationship is like purchasing insurance against future disaster in any of the other myriad ways a relationship (not just marriage) can go wrong. Here is a simple guide to solving communication problems in a relationship.
In a relationship, a lot of problems can arise. Everything from incompatibility issues to money to infidelity, being in a relationship can often seem as though you attempting to cross a minefield blindfolded. One of the potentially worst problems that can arise in relationship is poor communication.
Learning to solve communication problems in a relationship is like purchasing insurance against future disaster in any of the other myriad ways a relationship can go wrong. Here is a simple guide to solving communication problems in a relationship.
STOP LOOKING FOR RIGHT AND WRONG Often, in any fight or disagreement you may have with your partner, it is easy to give in to the temptation to try to be "right" and thus cast your partner as "wrong." Unfortunately, this type of thinking leads to a complete inability to communicate as your partner then views you as "wrong" and they as "right." Instead, eschew this dichotomy altogether and put your focus away from blame and toward equitable resolution.
HEAR WHAT YOUR PARTNER IS TRYING TO SAY One of the biggest problems in any type of communication is the inability or unwillingness of one person not listening to the other, and this is doubly so for marriage relationships. Communication is simply not possible if you or your partner is unable to listen and process what the other is saying. But this can also be a simple fix, as it merely takes effort and focus to do so.
DON'T MANIPULATE OR DECEIVE Don't use your words to manipulate your partner, or to deceive them, as this not only prevents genuine relationship communication, it leads to major problem with trust over time. Remember, be as straightforward as possible when trying to communicate with your partner, and do not view it as a method to keep them under your thumb to get what you want.
AVOID SUBTEXT Along the lines of the previous point, the importance of being straightforward must be reiterated. Say what you mean, and mean what you say is crucial to effectively communicate in relationships (in any meaningful way). Avoid making your partner "read between the lines" of what you are saying to try to figure out what you mean. Your partner isn't a detective, don't treat them like one. Be as open and honest with your meaning and intentions as you possibly can, and you will soon have no communication problems in your relationship.