Do you detect some unhappiness in paradise with your boyfriend? Don't just let it happen, take these steps to prevent a breakup. It may be tough to do...
Do you detect some unhappiness in paradise with your boyfriend? Don't just let it happen,
take these steps to prevent a breakup. It may be tough to do, working at making it work will be worth it if you love each other.
The most important first step is to talk openly, searching for understanding. If you and your boyfriend are "having words", state how you feel very clearly, but don't go overboard by saying something you'll regret. Listen to your boyfriend, let him have a say. Listening and learning is a good way to prevent a breakup. It's foolish not to expect that your boyfriend will look at things a little differently than you do. The best part of the word "compromise" is "promise", promise that you each will endeavor to work together. A relationship is a two way street, you each need to forgive and forget to keep on your relationship journey.
Give your boyfriend encouragement and support as you see him work to maintain your relationship. A man is encouraged when he knows someone is out to promote him, to back him up. Making an effort to get involved in some of the things your boyfriend likes to do, even if it's not quite your thing, can go a long way to prevent a breakup. You don't have to be gung-ho, you don't have to get greasy, but if your boyfriend likes sports or working on cars, making an effort to gain interest will go a long way to prevent a breakup. Root for him when he's throwing hoops, encourage him to talk when he's feeling blue. Push your boyfriend to realize his dreams, help him in his efforts as much as you can. Be with your boyfriend in mind and spirit, through good times and bad.
As a third phase, look at yourself, build yourself up, improve in ways that you want to. That will make you more desirable to him. Maybe you've become too wrapped up in your job and become rather undesirable to be around. Becoming a person who doesn't seem to enjoy time with your boyfriend is a good cause for a breakup. Take a look at yourself, fix what has become broken. You don't want to turn yourself into a stranger, just a better version of yourself. Spruce up your wardrobe, quit a bad habit or something he finds annoying. If you find something to make you happy, those around you will become happy, too. But your boyfriend a present for no reason. Go shopping. Read a best-seller. If you're awash with happiness, that spreads easily, and happiness is a great relationship saver.
A final note is to spend plenty of quality time with your boyfriend. This time should be just for the two of you, doing things that you both get a lot of benefit from. Times like this can strengthen a relationship, bring two people closer together. It's a good idea to set up a "date night" every week. Or plan a long weekend away. Develop an interest or hobby that is special to both of you. Don't forget that sharing a "roundup" of the day is a way to bring you closer. A relationship will grow stronger as you spend more quality time together.
Following these tips will go a long way toward preventing a breakup. Taking time, using perseverance, will overcome any imperfections that may arise in a relationship. Willingness to do your part, maybe a little more, is most important in preventing a relationship from breaking up.
