Asking the hard questions; singles dating tips for getting a date

Whether you’re nine or ninety, the first date with someone can be the most nerve wracking. Here are a few singles dating tips that cover most of the bases, so you can spend more time thinking about the person you’re dating than the actual date itself.

Singles dating tip number one: asking them out. You can’t have a first date unless both of you know it. If you like somebody, try being friendly with them first instead of asking them out straight away. This way you’ll know some things about each other and can lay the ground work for future date conversations. Of course, once you get to know them, you might find that you have nothing in common. This might hurt, but at least you’ve made a new friend.

In any event, you’ll never know if they like you unless you ask them out on a date. If you like somebody, take the initiative and ask them out; unless they’re a parody of a high school cheer leader, they won’t get angry you make you feel embarrassed if they say no. Everyone knows how hard it is to work up the courage, and they’ll respect you for it. If nothing else, you have given this person a wonderful compliment.

But if they do say yes, congratulations! Where are you going to go?

Singles dating tip number two; have a plan where to go. Have a couple of ideas already in mind when you ask the person. If you know them a little bit already, then you’ll know if they’re an outdoorsy person or not. Look up some nature walks or flower gardens nearby and arrange to take them on a picnic there. Not only are trees and flowers great conversation starters, but they will give you something to look at if the conversation runs dry. If neither of you like the outdoors, search for art galleries or museums that have interesting showings or classes that are free or cheap to join in. Like the nature walk, this idea will give you plenty of opportunity for fun and conversation.

If you’re more of a traditionalist, and prefer the ol’ ‘dinner and a movie’ type of date, then make sure it’s movie first, then dinner. That way, if you find that you have nothing to talk about over dinner, you can both discuss the movie.

Confidence will get you the date, but it has to be sustained. Remember these singles dating tips when arranging a date in the future.