Breaking off a relationship.

Jul 20
10:58

2009

Matt Fuller

Matt Fuller

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http://www.hookmeup.com.au There is no easy way to call off your relationship, however there are a number of ways that can make it easier for both of you, here is some advice to help you initiate a clean break.

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* Get to the point. The more you drag out the process the more pain and anxiety you will need to go through. You need to make a strong statement so he fully understands your decision. If you appear half hearted this sends a message to him that you are not 100% serious about your decision which will only prolong the break up.

* Tell the truth. Don't skirt around the issue,Breaking off a relationship. Articles if you are dating another man, he needs to know this, the truth usually comes out eventually, and if you are upfront it will be easier for you to make a clean break with a fresh start. A little pain now will allow you to move on quickly. Don't tell him you still love him or that things may work out between you both in the future.

* Avoid showing too much pity. As cold as that sounds, the last thing you want to happen is to feel guilty or show him that you are feeling sorry for him. If you are not strong and decisive, this will stop you from finishing the job, and you can expect weeks or months dragging out the process if you show him you are feeling sorry for him.

* Stop communicating. Make sure he understands that you wont be taking his calls or returning his messages. Insist that he doesn't turn up at your house. If you have truly lost your desire to be with him, you need to send a strong message and he too will be able to move on.

* Be strong. Keep busy and take action to start moving on straight away. Hang out with friends, throw yourself into work for a while, start dating a few random people, he will soon get the message that its over for good.

* Decide on a smart location to break up. Don't do it at home, or even worse, at his house. Unless its a really nasty break up, do it in person. If you have been with him for a long period of time its common decency.

When you are confident that the break up is final and you have had some time to reflect, begin searching to fill the void that was created as a result of being with your ex. The big question of finding someone else will soon be something you will address. Throw caution to the wind, go out and have some fun by going to a singles event, catching up with some of your single friends for a night out on the town or visit some of the online dating sites and chat rooms that are very popular among singles these days.

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