Daryl Campbell

Dating Help: They Don't Want To Go Out With You Again

You never know on a date what can rub people the wrong way. It can be something you said or didn’t say or just good old body language that upsets your date. Then at other times it is something very specific.

The last time you and your date went out, you thought it was all good. You enjoyed yourself and so did your date. Or at least you think they did. When you asked them you got a non committal answer. It wasn't a no, so you took that as a good sign. After all during the date the both of you shared some laughs and decent banter.

Yet when you call and ask that person if they want to go out again, they make excuses, leave you hanging or just tell you no without giving any reasons why. 

You never know on a date what can rub people the wrong way. It can be a major argument where neither you nor your date is willing to give in or something so minor that it can escape your attention all together. It also can come down to perspective. No big deal to you; major big deal to them. Like what?

1. Order For Two

Unless they specifically ask you to do so, never decide what your date is going to eat. If they are having a hard time making up their minds than go ahead and offer some suggestions. Better still would be to wait for them to ask you.  Ordering your date's food sends them a signal that you are treating them like an adolescent. That's what some parents do to their children when going out to the restaurant. Chances are if the kid doesn't like it, your date will hate it even more.

2. Don't dress to impress

You do not have to go out and buy new custom made clothes every time you decide to go out but looking like a slob tells your date that they were not important enough to look nice for. You should be well groomed. Even if you are dressing casual make sure your clothes are clean and neat.   

3. Over Planning

You think of everything. From ordering your date's food, to deciding where you are going to go next and for exactly how long. It's a schedule done with such precision that it would make people at the Pentagon envious.

Unfortunately you left no room for spontaneity but more importantly you left zero space for your date's input. Maybe they do not want to go to the club or the movies. They have something else in mind which you dismiss with a joke and a wave of your hand. That's a way of telling your date that you do not value their opinion. It could also get them to wondering whether they are dating a control freak.    

If you want to grow your dating relationship it is essential that you leave plenty of room for your date to be who they are and show your appreciation for them. Therefore look nice for your date, be conscious of letting them make up their own minds and leave plenty of room in your planning for their input. All of this is only going to tilt the odds heavily in your favor that they want to go out with you again and again, and again.

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