Dating on the rebound - Good or Bad?

Dating a rebounder is something that has long been considered "dangerous dating". You may be surprised to learn that statistically, the rate of break ups with rebound relationships is the same as conventional relationships. This finding was based on research carried out at a New Jersey University.

Many relationship professionals will deter singles from dating someone that has recently split from a long term partner, warning that this type of dating opens the door allowing other peoples baggage directly into your life. However research findings indicated that the majority of new singles were not prepared to sit around and undergo a one year sentence of celibacy and self reflection, instead opting to start dating again sooner rather than later.

Allowing yourself some time to grieve before entering into another relationship certainly has some merit. However spending time with someone that is new and fun can be the best therapy available to you. One of the conclusions the Princeton studies compiled was that new singles fresh out of a relationship could gain positive health benefits from rebound relationships provided there was no serious level of commitment and that there was a certain level of independence maintained in order to be able to achieve self growth.

Those seeking to start dating straight after a break up often have a stigma attached to them that the only possible outcome to such a relationship is misery. Our findings don't necessarily reflect that this is always the case. As adults, most of us are usually having to deal with some issue that life will present to us such as the death of someone close, financial hardship, just to name a few examples. There are many factors that determine 'baggage and it doesn't always have to solely reflect a relationship break up, so rebound daters need not be tarnished exclusively with this brush.

If you feel inclined to try rebound dating, a good way to start is to date someone else that is in a similar situation, this way you are both at a similar stage of your lives. Where do you start looking? A potential rebound date doesn't grow on trees. Clubs and bars will often leave you depressed seeing other people having fun while your so badly out of touch with the singles scene, reinforcing the fact that you really are all alone.

The internet is the ideal location for singles to meet like minded people. Within minutes you are able to locate someone that shares a mutual understanding simply by reading various member profiles. A few clicks of the mouse is all it takes to find a new lease on life.