Dating Relationship: They Do Not Trust You

When it comes to this dating relationship, you have not done anything wrong or at least not anything worth mentioning. Countless times, you have told your dating partner how you felt about them. You are not an adolescent experiencing your first love or someone who is easily swayed by snappy patter and good looks. You have been in and out of more than a few relationships.

That's life. You are not looking for a shoulder to cry on or someone to forgive you. What's done is done. And now you have met someone that you feel good about. At times you think they feel the same way at other moments you get the sense they do not trust you.

It's not that they have said so but your intuition is telling you something is up. Instead of trying to convince them to trust you, this may be a good time to step back and analyze whether you are dating someone who has issues when it comes to jealousy. While it may not be full blown at the present time, the green eyed monster has a way of quietly taking control of a relationship; so there are some things to be on the lookout for:

1. The Break up

No matter how many times you have tried to reassure your dating partner, they seem to have an obsession with the two of you splitting up. The longer you are in the relationship the more fearful they become. Anybody that you come into contact with makes them uneasy even if your dating partner was the one who introduced you. Check out their body language and also their mood. Even if they do not say anything a jealous partner's mood will almost always take a turn for the worse.   

2.  The Monitor

You are in another room talking on your cell phone and your significant other comes in. They just have to find that thing they were looking for and they are pretty sure it's in this room. Or they have a question that just can't wait. Does any of this happen repeatedly? When you do get off the phone does your dating partner give you the third degree? May be you went somewhere by yourself or friends and your dating partner has to know the details in detail. Understand it does not necessarily mean they get overly emotional while cross examining you. They can do it with a smile on their face, a quiet voice and their attention focused elsewhere.   

3. Creeping Control

It starts under the guise of helping you. Before you know it your dating partner is deciding who you should talk to and when. They did some checking and discovered that person you were talking to is not all they pretend to be. At first it's okay. You thank them for watching out for you and their efforts make you appreciate them even more. Now it seems like everyone is a suspect. Again it's all under the guise of doing things for your own good but in reality they are taking control of who can and cannot have access to you.

Everyone in a relationship needs to be reassured periodically by their significant other. That's normal. No one wants to be taken for granted or left wondering whether the other person's feeling towards them have changed. It can also be away of reaffirming the trust that two people have built within the relationship. But if nothing seems to comfort your dating partner then stay alert to the warning signs to make sure the twin gates of jealousy and control do not lock behind you.