Five Easy Steps to Getting Her Back Through Self-improvement!

Feb 23
08:34

2010

Andrew Hunter

Andrew Hunter

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Women understand that the impressions that people have of us, and the judgments they make about us, are based on our appearance - indeed, our appearance often is a determining factor when someone's deciding to get to know us better. Most men are not nearly as attentive to their looks as are women. It's not uncommon to see men wearing clothes that look comfortable but deplorable.

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Women understand that the impressions that people have of us,Five Easy Steps to Getting Her Back Through Self-improvement! Articles and the judgments they make about us, are based on our appearance - indeed, our appearance often is a determining factor when someone's deciding to get to know us better. Most men are not nearly as attentive to their looks as are women.  It's not uncommon to see men wearing clothes that look comfortable but deplorable.

If your "image" is the basis of people's impression of you, it's obvious that it consists of more than just the outward appearance, but also include the internal character. This internal character, in fact, is more important than physical appearance when people are formulating their opinion of you. You want women to conclude that you'll be a good companion, a good provider and a good lover, and they'll certainly consider your character more highly than your looks in that assessment.

Having discussed the importance of image, let's examine some of the improvements you could make to your life to get your girlfriend back:

First, forge a vision of the world and your place in it:

Women want men who will provide them a feeling of security.  One thing about you that conveys that is your recognition of the world around you, your place in it, and your plans for constantly improving your situation. If a man hasn't got a plan for himself or his family, he's going to have a hard time attracting or keeping a girlfriend. Part of the image you need to win back your girlfriend, then, is to develop and follow a plan.  Acknowledge any failures you may have had in this area and then start following your new plan.

Next, get to work and take responsibility for yourself:

You wouldn't buy a book and then tell people you knew all about it before reading it - likewise, developing a plan is only the first step in developing the image necessary to winning your girlfriend back. You must be able to show not only that you've got a plan, but you're following it and producing results. You have to be on your own, working for the money to pay your bills and save for emergencies and special occasions.

Get in shape:

While physical strength isn't as important as it once was, a fit man is simply more attractive to women than one who isn't fit. There's no expense involved in getting more fit - just get more active.  You'll improve your appearance and your self-esteem simultaneously!

Next, look to your appearance:

It's absolutely essential that you examine your appearance closely and determine what people's impressions are when they first look at you. It's not difficult for men to learn how to dress - there are innumerable web resources providing instruction in how to match different articles of clothing to present a pleasing appearance.  You should also make a point of paying attention daily to your personal grooming.

Fifth - have fun that she can share in:

"All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy."  If that old saying accurately describes your life, you should wonder how much fun your girlfriend can have if you're never there for her, or if she has to endure a hobby or sport she really doesn't enjoy if she wants to spend time with you. What you do together isn't nearly as important as simply being together, but if she's bored or unhappy because your time together is always spent pursuing your interests, how long will she endure it?  Find out what sort of things she'd like to do, and change your routine so that more of your time together is focused on her interests.