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Gender Research: Exploring the Differences Between Men and WomenRecent gender research has shown us many things, most notably the key differences between men and women. Discover the fundamental neurological elements that separate the sexes and how to use this information to make meaningful connections in your relationships. But before you put all your money on men, consider another gender research experiment. In this one, students were asked to wait in a small room with a cluttered desk while the experimenter "got something ready." The students thought they were simply waiting for the experiment to begin, but this actually was the experiment. After two minutes, the student was asked to describe in detail the waiting room from memory. Men, it turns out, didn't do well on the test, and were able to remember very little. Most men were barely able to describe much of the room in clear and accurate detail. They often missed major objects located on a desk right in front of them. Women, on the other hand, could go on and on with precise descriptions of the room's contents. In fact, women proved 70 percent better than men at recalling complex patterns formed by apparently random and unconnected items. One point for the women's side, but who's keeping score? Insight into Modern Gender Research In these gender research experiments and dozens of others like them, men and women consistently perform at different levels - sometimes men outperform women and sometimes vice-versa. Which is all to say that scientists are suddenly fast at work trying to account for the differences between men and women -- and what they're finding may surprise you. Why are researchers just now exploring the differences between men and women? The reason can be traced to the 1970s when the feminist revolution nearly prohibited talk of inborn differences in the behavior of males and females. Pointing out distinctions between the sexes was simply off limits if you were a respectable researcher wanting to keep your job. Men dominated fields like architecture and engineering, it was argued, because of social, not hormonal, pressures. Women did the vast majority of society's child rearing because few other options were available to them. Once sexism was abolished, so the argument ran, the world would become perfectly equitable. But as hard as we tried to squelch our differences, the evidence for innate gender variance only began to mount and the differences between men and women have now become unavoidable. What's more, the differences are not exclusively relegated to how you were raised as a child and society's traditional stereotyping. The differences between men and women, gender research is discovering, may lie much deeper. Understanding the Fundamental Differences between Men and Women Gender research scientists have not ignored the ol' nature-nurture debate altogether, but they have come to accept that a few fundamental differences between men and women are apparently biological. It turns out that men and women's brains, for example, are not only different, but the way we use our brains differs too. Women have larger connections and, subsequently, more frequent "crosstalk" between their brains' left and right hemispheres. This accounts for women's seeming ability to have better verbal skills and relational intuition than men. Men, on the other hand, have greater brain hemisphere separation which enhances abstract reasoning and visual-spatial intelligence. Poet and author Robert Bly, describes women's brains as having a "superhighway" of connection while men have a "little crookedly country road."
Big deal, you may be thinking, men can rotate
three-dimensional objects in their heads and women are better at reading
emotions of people in photographs. How's that affect my relationships
with the opposite sex? Fair enough. Here's our answer: If you
evaluate the opposite gender's behavior according to your own standards,
never considering the significant social and biological differences
between men and women Source: Free Articles from ArticlesFactory.com
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well as co-directors of the Center for Relationship Development on the
campus of Seattle Pacific University where Les is a professor of
psychology and Leslie is a marriage and family therapist. They are also
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