Robert Wallace

Get your ex back by finding a solution to the problem

There are many steps to take when trying to get your ex back, and many of those steps are going to be different based on the circumstances of the break up. But the one step that is absolutely necessary in every single break up is: Identifying and finding a solution to the problem.

If you have been through a breakup and have decided that you want to get back with your ex, you probably have good intentions but you do not know where to start. You ask yourself and others: what can I do to get back together with my ex, and many people give you conflicting advice and even worse do not even know the circumstances surrounding the break-up

In these cases, the best you can do is to take a full analysis of what caused the break up. The answer lies only in yourself, because you're the one who knows exactly what happened, and you know what to do.

The first thing you must do is; you must think back in time and analyze all the factors that contributed to break up with your ex. You must be honest and open and you must accept the truth. If you think nothing happened or that you were not guilty of anything, and that change will not happen, it is likely that the situation will not improve because you don't see it as part of the problem. In addition, your ex, will find your inability to recognize your mistakes, which is not positive in all cases.

Second, I suggest you change your attitude as a function of the truth that you just think. In other words, if you determine that you have missed something, like you're angry against your ex because of a misunderstanding, you must repair the consequences of this anger, if you determine that you missed something, for example, you were not nice to your ex, you must also repair the consequences of that, if you notice that a particular attitude has been influential on the relationship, so that the relationship had become monotonous, you must change in a positive way and introduce new elements of fun, excitement, and entertainment into the relationship.

Once you have acknowledged the problem and have implemented a solution, how to get your ex back will depend on how you present your solution. Invite your ex to take a walk or to sit down for a coffee and express what you want in a sincere manner.

Avoid the "blame game" like the plague, because that is exactly what it is. Blaming each other for what happened, will only make a bad situation worse. Explain to your ex that your have identified the problem, and that you have a workable solution.

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