The famous song "Breaking Up Is Hard To Do" understated significantly the heartache and torment a man in love experiences during a breakup. It's precisely as if someone close to him had died. The truth is that a man may love many women in his lifetime, but when he loves a woman, he loves only her, and regards her as the only one for him, for all time. How hard can it be, then, to realize that even the contemplation of breaking up is like hitting a man over the head with a sledgehammer?
The famous song "Breaking Up Is Hard To Do" understated significantly the heartache and anguish a man in love experiences during a breakup. It's exactly as if someone close to him had died. The truth is that a man may love many women in his lifetime,
but when he loves a woman, he loves only her, and regards her as the only one for him, for all time. How hard can it be, then, to understand that even the contemplation of breaking up is like hitting a man over the head with a sledgehammer?
The advice listed here has been derived from the experiences of many men who successfully won their women back, and will help you in your quest! The guidelines reviewed here are actions men have taken to win their girlfriends back that have been remarkably unsuccessful. Whatever other techniques you may be following to win her back, make sure to avoid these particular mistakes!
Do not continually attempt to contact her by every means available:
This is the act of a man who acts impulsively, without thinking, without considering the impact it might have on her. This tactic results in failure every single time. Oh, there may be cases here and there where the woman took him back temporarily, but it never lasted. Men who try this are displaying desperation and obsession, two characteristics that women simply don't want in their men. This tactic reinforces a woman's decision to walk out.
She's been under a great deal of pressure, and now the best thing you can do for her - the thing that'll most impress upon her just how much you respect her and value her privacy - is to leave her alone with her thoughts so that she can sort things out. Like you, she's dealing with problems the resolution of which will have a great impact on her life - she doesn't need the phone ringing off the hook to keep interrupting her thoughts!
Stalking is illegal and can get you tossed in jail:
Can you imagine how threatening a feeling it must be for a woman to know that her ex is following her around? When she goes out to lunch, he'll be in the same restaurant, if she goes to the movies, he'll be there . . . if she goes on a date, he'll still be right there. What on earth makes any man think that treating a woman this way will persuade her to reconcile with him?
No woman wants the kind of man who would terrorize a woman for breaking off a relationship.
Don't use her friends as your mouthpiece:
Don't misunderstand - you can still see her friends if they're your friends too, but don't send them with messages to her, and don't ask them to mediate on your behalf. Especially if her friends had any influence in the breakup, they're going to want to reinforce her decision and they'll report any negative things you do or say - including any attempt to enlist them on your behalf.
You don't have to neglect her friends, but you have to be smart about your dealings with them. Never push them to say anything to her, don't whimper about your lost love, and never say anything negative about her. What's left? A pleasant conversation about anything under the sun, with a few moments spent letting them know that your relationship with your ex was made in heaven. They'll report every word of the conversation, you can be certain.
Don't make promises you can't keep:
You cannot change overnight for her, and if you change the basic components of your personality, like how you express yourself, will you still be the same person she fell in love with in the first place? It's hard enough living up to your own criteria and expectations, let alone those that you permit other people to impose on you.
What you're offering to change is part of the man she fell in love with - if you change it, can she still love you?
Now, there's a difference between significant personality components like how you express emotion that are very difficult to change, and plain old nasty habits like leaving your dirty underwear on the floor, or loudly passing gas whenever you go to a nice restaurant. These offensive habits things you can work on changing, and when you see how hard it is to change them, you'll understand how hard it is to change basic personality components like expressing emotion. But here's a secret - she probably loved the way you have a hard time expressing emotion because it's a part of you, the man she fell in love with!
