How to Get Her Back, Even if She's Already With Someone Else!

Men who've been dumped by their girlfriends usually don't try to get them back if they've started seeing another man. Even though it took a while to get over the shock of the breakup, though, it's not impossible to get her back, even if she's with another man now. The pointers discussed here should help you to win her back, regardless of who she's seeing. Don't think that just because she's seeing some other man, she's untouchable.

Save her from a rebound relationship

When a relationship dissolves, it's best to spend time alone for a while and get over it.  Some people, though, take up with a new lover right away, but these new relationships rarely last and usually are characterized by a great deal of heartache and suffering. Frustrating as it is, you cannot take direct action now - you've got to be patient and let her return to you . . . with a little subtle help from you, of course!

Keep your head about you and don't do anything dumb

This is a dangerous time, because you're going to be dealing with a lot of emotions and might feel prompted to take drastic action.  Whatever action you'd like to take, think about it and sleep on it, and then reconsider it a day or two later.  In most cases, you'll recognize it was a stupid idea and you'll be glad you waited. Don't approach her and tell her she's wrong to see someone so soon after your breakup - in fact, don't approach her or talk to her at all.  Give her the respect of leaving her on her own for now.  The advantage here is that when she starts to realize the mistake she's made, nobody can say that you interfered with her thinking by contacting or and trying to get back together with her. When a woman hasn't gotten over a relationship before starting another, inevitably she'll constantly compare her new lover with the old one, and it's usually the new one who loses out.

The inevitable

She was with you for a long time, and she likes the qualities that brought you two together.  So she'll seek out those qualities in her new guy, and she'll be disappointed when she doesn't find them.  And he'll be hurt that she's holding you up as a standard, leading to fights and arguments before they even get their relationship off the ground. Scarcely anything he does will compare favorably with you in her eyes, which will frustrate him and make it difficult for him to love her.

Leave her alone - let her contact you

This is an important concept to understand - if she's in contact with you, she'll lean on you because that's what she's used to doing, even while she's having trouble with her new man. While she's going through these problems with him, she cannot rely on you for support to help her through it. You don't want to help her through this challenging time and establish a good relationship with him, now do you?  So stay away!

Winning back a lady friend who immediately takes up with another man isn't really that hard if you understand what's going on behind the scenes.  The hardest part is to remain patient and don't try to make anything happen yourself. Careful planning is often the first step to success.  Like the other men who've won their girlfriends back under similar circumstances, you've got to make a plan using the strategies discussed here, and then stick to it. Be assured that to achieve your goal of winning her back requires patience and self-discipline, qualities that may be in short supply because of the emotional turmoil you're also going through as a result of the breakup.  Make certain now that this is a woman who's really worth the time and effort you're about to put into getting her back! The emotional difficulties you're having can be smoothed over by realizing that you're just going through a short separation before getting back together, a process that you'll be inspired to stick with every time you see the two of them together.