Key steps to surviving a breakup all alone

They say that time heals all. In retrospect, it just takes time to heal. But healing can't begin to take place without "closure". What is closure? Closure is the sealing of the emotional wound that has been opened by the breakup. It doesn't matter why you fell out. It can be either small or a major thing. Big things can damage the foundation of a relationship. While little things can build up over time and cripple the relationship. We all know that a small leak can sink a big ship over time. Closure helps a person get over what happened. It doesn't matter who did wrong or who got the short end of the stick. All that matters is healing once the damage has been done.

Here are some key steps to get the healing process started:

1. Take some time away from your ex. This is crucial to the healing process. No matter how much you want to text, email or talk to your ex, don't. Take a week or so and cool off. Step back from the relationship and take a look at the big picture. You don't have to make any heavy decisions right now, just take a break.
2. Accept what has happened during your break time. This is the main purpose of taking the break. Embrace the breakup. You do not need to uphold it or agree with it, but just accept it.

For instance, if a drinking glass falls to the floor and breaks into a hundred pieces, you would not stand there in denial about it. You can clearly see the broken glass. You saw it hit the floor and you heard it shatter. You don't have to call a friend to ask what he or she thinks about it, right? Of course not. You would immediately accept that the glass fell and broke and you would do what next? Clean it up. Once it's cleaned up, you would get another glass and move on with your day. Maybe it was your favorite glass or maybe it was a gift. Either way, it is broken and all you can do is clean it up and get another glass. Well, now imagine if that drinking glass represented your heart. When your heart is broken, you have to accept it and then clean it up. Once it is cleaned up, you will have a new heart to move forward with.

1. After the acceptance phase, you have to forgive yourself for your past mistakes during the relationship (even if you weren't the one that caused the most hurt) and then you have to forgive your ex.
2. So now you have taken a little time to yourself, you have accepted the events that have occurred, you have forgiven yourself and your ex. So now what? Now you must write. Oh yes... Journal time!

Whether you make a blog or write in a small memo pad, it doesn't matter. The point is for you to get your feelings out. Write your ex a letter stating how you feel. Write down your feelings exactly as they are and read them aloud. This is a therapeutic process.

Here is the catch, burn the letter or shred it and throw it away after you're done with it. DO NOT SEND IT TO YOUR EX. It will not prove anything. The written portion of this exercise is just for your eyes only. Reading it out loud puts your feelings out into the universe and allows you to release that negative energy. It truly works and you will feel a lot better.

1. After you have done steps 1-5, it is time to get busy. Start working out. Join that big gym that you always drive past and meet new people. Opt for a midnight cake delivery chennai service even and treat yourself. Go to concerts or even on a date or two. It does not have to be serious. You can actually just treat a good friend to dinner and a movie. The options are limitless but the important part is to take opportunities to get out and about.

After awhile, you will start to feel your confidence come back. The pain may not be completely gone after the first few weeks or so but it will definitely be manageable. Nobody likes a sad and miserable person. The more you can smile and feel good about yourself, the more people will be attracted to you. Keeping a clear head during this process as it is critical for you to begin healing.