Restore Communication With My Ex Boyfriend - How To Do It

Is communication with your ex boyfriend difficult? Are you unsure of what to say? The key to getting back together romantically with your ex is communication but it's not something you can dive into headfirst after going through a breakup. Knowing what to say is only one side of the coin - knowing when and how to say it is far more important. Obviously trying to strike up a conversation immediately after a breakup is a bad plan - but when are you good to go? Difficult situations often call for drastic measures - but not the type that result in even more hurt feelings, over-dramatic reactions and lingering regrets. The following clues may offer valuable suggestions to making the process work for you - in the best possible way. Further tricks you can use to get your ex boyfriend interested in getting back together with you at the last paragraph of this write-up.

No Need to Rush

Only fools rush in - and you're no fool. You're a strong, confident and independent woman and you have more going for you than you realize. A lot of women in your position would simply give up and slip into the pool of despair, content to wallow in it. You're doing anything but wallowing. You've made the decision to pursue a relationship with your ex boyfriend. Ironically, the ultimate tool in your arsenal involves doing the one thing that doesn't involve chasing your ex. It involves leaving him alone - at least for a little while.

Following the breakup, it is absolutely necessary that the two of you have some significant time apart. Obviously this is not going to be permanent, but it is something that is necessary. Your ex needs some time without you - and you need some time to focus on yourself. Consider it your opportunity to regroup and redevelop a more positive mindset for the road ahead. Take comfort in the fact that getting back together with your ex-boyfriend isn't a hopeless possibility - it's a reality as long as you can take this time to reflect and remember why you started on this journey in the first place.

A No-Contact Policy

While keeping some time and distance between yourself and your ex seems like it's impossible, it's not. If not contacting him for a few weeks seems like too hard of a concept to grasp (especially since it seemed like you were joined at the hip while you were dating) try taking the no contact rule one day at a time. If one day is too hard, go for an hour. A lot of women break down and end up contacting their ex boyfriend too soon. By doing that, they let him know that they're still into him - and he can continue the breakup indefinitely.

Try turning your phone off for an hour at a time - the world will still go on without it. The longer you can avoid contacting your ex boyfriend, the better off it will be. On top of that, it won't be as hard as it is at first forever. As days start going by, keeping away will be less of a struggle and more of a reality. That's a good way for you to discern that it's working. You're getting your head into the correct space prior to reestablishing contact. Congratulate yourself on a job well done so far.

The only thing you have to be doing right now is sticking to the plan. A no-contact policy by definition means that you cannot make contact him - matter what form that contact takes. Don't Facebook stalk him, don't learn how to astral project into his bedroom while he's sleeping - nothing.

While the process is hard for you, it's going to be unbearable for him. The silence is starting to get to him in a big way - and his imagination is going to naturally construct a whole list of what you could be doing since you're not spending all your time pursuing him anymore. If you give in and message him prematurely, you're not going to make him think about you more simply because you're always around. You're going to enable him to go on with his single life and delay any thought of getting back together even longer.

Gauging His Response

Not only is your ex-boyfriend going to be overwhelmed with his sudden over-active imagination, he's also going to be plagued with a lot of his deepest personal doubts. By effectively dropping off the face of his earth he is left with no alternative other than to think about you. You're not spending your time with him and you're not chasing him like you still want him - does that mean you don't? Does that mean that any chance of getting you back is out of the realm of possibility?

He probably thought that the door to opportunity was wide open - and you've basically just slammed it shut in his face. Believe it or not, no guy wants to be left wondering if getting back together with his ex-girlfriend is off the table for good - no matter how he acted during the breakup. He may have given you the impression that you were the last thing on his mind but now he can't seem to think about anything else. Those thoughts are going to end up haunting him. Once he's primed and ready, the time has finally come to act. Just be careful how you go about it and make sure to optimize your chances.

Going out on a Limb - Contacting Him

Now that it's been a few weeks, it's time to go on a scavenger hunt. Most guys either intentionally or accidentally leave a few things behind that didn't come to mind when they broke off the relationship. It doesn't have to be something important, just something that belongs to him. It may seem like an obvious ploy, but your ex-boyfriend has been so wrapped up in what could be happening with you that it's not even going to cross his mind.

Call him up and let him know you've uncovered a few of his things. If he wants them, he'll likely suggest a time and place to get them back. Then you can see him in person and see what develops from there. Discovering the correct path may not be the simplest thing you've ever had to face - but it's certainly worth it when you realize how far you've come and how much you've managed to accomplish due to the process.

Your Next Steps

Communicating with your ex boyfriend again is a huge step forward, but your work doesn't stop here. You have to know how to make him want you back by using male psychology.

There are also some innovative get him back techniques that you should think about implementing if you want to get back together. Visit blog links at Author’s Bio for hugely effective tips for an ex boyfriend and get him falling in love with you over again.