Starting Over To Win Your Love Back

It seems to you like everything happened so quickly, One minute the two of you were planning a picnic and the next the relationship was a shambles. Everything that the two of you had worked so hard at building was just dust. Now you are left walking through the rubble trying to find out if there is anything worth saving and knowing that you only want your partner back. To be able win your love back is going to be a huge challenge.

To try and win your love back, first look to see if there is anything able to be salvaged. Are you willing to forgive ANYTHING that your partner may have done to contribute to the breakup? What about yourself – are you willing to change or is their hope that you can be forgiven for past wrongs? It take two to make a relationship and it takes two to break one! Look carefully over the past months of the relationship and try to figure out what changed. It's often something so small and (to you) inconsequential that it can be easily overlooked. Dig deep!

Look through all that remains, take a hard look at everything and see the damage that was done. Is it “repairable”? It could be that the damage due to the break up was too much and there really isn’t anything left to save. Hopefully, this is not the case but, unfortunately, it is true many times. Bottom line – do YOU want to spend the time and great effort it will take to win back your love? Does it make sense to try to put the pieces of the failed relationship – even marriage – back together? Will your partner be open to anything that you try to do? It WILL be hard work and emotionally draining at times, but it you truly believe that the relationship is worth saving, then you should try.

Now, once you have decided that it is worth it to try and win your love back, clean up. Get rid of all the things that cluttered up your life and made it difficult. This is a great chance to go in and take only what was good about your love and leave behind the bad stuff. If there was something that complicated things between the two of you, leave it behind. You really need to focus your energy on building on the more solid foundations of your love. Start with yourself. What was it about YOU that made your partner fall in love with you in the first place? Did you change in some way? What about your partner? Was there a change in them?

What was it that made your love special? What were the best things about your love? What was it that made it special and really makes you want to win your love back? Focus on these things and use them as the cornerstone and foundation of winning your love back. These are not easy questions. I can't think of anything much harder than trying to figure out changes that have occurred over a period of time. However, if you can complete this step, your chances of winning back your love are that much stronger. Only by knowing what began the love and then what changes occurred to devastate that love, can you begin to rebuild the relationship.

One mistake that many make when they want to rebuild a relationship is that they try and rebuild it exactly the way it was before it started falling apart. The truth is, if it wasn’t strong enough to withstand the storms that came the first time, it won’t be strong the next time. Try to build it better than it was before. Don’t live in the past, build on the good things and leave behind the things that made what you have weak enough to be destroyed. Win your love back and make it stronger than ever before!