Strip Clubs - Can Your Husband Go?

Strip clubs are a touchy subject when it comes to some couples. In some marriages and relationships, the door is wide open to enjoy the experience these facilities provide. Certainly, unless you frequent the scummiest, back-alley shack on the strip, there will be nothing that could be construed as "cheating" going on in the establishment. Of course, this doesn't matter to some women. Just like pornography, watching strippers falls into the strict "not to happen on my watch" category for these relationships. So where does the line end? Is it okay for your husband to go watch these dancers?

As with almost anything else that concerns interpersonal relationships, no one else can write the rules of your marriage but you. If you, as the wife, believe that strip clubs are and should be off-limits, then they are. You should make this clear to your husband, explain your reasoning, and then you have ground rules. If your husband willingly agrees to these rules and then goes behind your back, trust issues arise. These, after all, are the real issues involved here. Trust is the backbone of any healthy relationship. When it is breached—whether it is lying, cheating, or just omission—it can be difficult to find common ground again.

So if the question is a point blank, "Are strip clubs bad for a marriage?" the answer has to be no. There are millions of couples who allow this kind of entertainment into their relationship. Many women enjoy going to the show with their husbands and can appreciate the beauty on display. These couples all have their own reasons for embracing nude entertainment. Sometimes it helps to keep the bedroom spark alive. Sometimes it is simply a matter of having something fun to do. In other situations, the woman may not ever have any desire to attend, but feels as though it won't harm anything to let her husband go watch.

If you are on the fence and unsure about where to come down on the subject, it's important to find out why your husband want to go to strip clubs. If it is a matter of going because his friends are going, there is probably very little to worry about. No man wants to be emasculated by telling his friends he can't do something because "his wife won't let him." If he wants to go for other reasons, explore them and see how you feel about it. One of the biggest mistakes a couple can make is to shut down communication. When one partner begins making "rules" for the other without any discussion, you can rest assured that rebellion will occur soon. Whether this type of entertainment is to be allowed or not, it's important to decide together.