Are your children Happy Children?

As parents we are the biggest influence in our childrens lives, we provide an example of what life is all about. Or should I say, what you as a person perceive life to be. Unfortunately sometimes this is not always the best example if you perceive your life to be difficult and full of stress. We all have limiting beliefs about certain issues which in turn have been passed down by our parents and their parents. So how can we we make sure our children are “happy children”?

Inundated with todays stresses and strains of our society as a whole, we are unaware of the messages we are portraying to our little ones.

The biggest gift you can give to your children is to show them the best of who you really are. Most of the issues we face in adulthood is the inability to think and feel for ourselves. We are constantly seeking approval, love and security from other people to try and confirm our own worthiness and value. By doing this we hide our own true selves and our own potential to be happy.

If we can start to recognize this we are able to teach our children the true value in making the right choices for themselves on the basis of how they truly feel and what feels good to them instead of them making decisions based just on wanting our approval.

Unfortunately we have created this whole scenario because we become upset, angry and disappointed when our children don’t do what we want them to do, this sometimes makes the child go against what feels right to him/her own true self. They don’t want to hurt someone they love so instead of following their true nature they shut off that part of themselves to please the parent. And the need for approval, love and security from other people to feel worthy is born!

As parents we need to take the responsibility for our own worthiness and happiness and understand that when are children want to do something that feels good to them it has nothing to do with them not loving us or betraying what we think is right for them.

Again we are seeking the worthiness and love we crave by trying to control our children, obviously we don’t do this on purpose, its just how we have learned, its one big vicious cycle which could be changed if we could take the responsibility of loving ourselves.

Wouldn’t it be good if parents could break the mold of this conditioning that has gone on for years and teach our children to see the world as a better place instead of our limited perception of it, full of fears and dangers, anxiety and stress.