Do You Want To Save Your Marriage?

A marriage on the rocks doesn`t necessarily have to end up in the divorce courts. With effort from both parties, even the most fragile marriage can not only be saved, but take on a whole new lease of life. The first step is to be honest with each other, if you are unhappy your partner needs to know why. They aren`t psychic, and if they have done something wrong, they need to know what it is before they can fix it.

There maybe no specific thing and it could be an accumulation of events that have left you both in this turmoil. Again, communication is vital. Maybe your friends or relatives` calling in at all times of day and night is really starting to annoy your partner, or vice versa. This is easily solved, you have time with them and time with your partner. Friends and family have been known to ruin many a marriage, don`t let them ruin yours! This is the family home and you all have the right to come home and relax without a barrage of visitors, so resolve this problem before it gets any worse.

If one partner has a drink or drug problem, the other has a big dilemma. Providing the problem doesn`t result in violence of any kind, you can save this marriage. If you love them and want to support them, don`t make yourself into a martyr, you would expect them to do the same if it was you wouldn`t you? If the problem is escalating and the whole family is being badly affected, that`s a whole different ball game, but if this is an occasional weakness that isn`t hurting anyone but them, you can save this marriage.

Infidelity from either side is very hard to deal with, and the reason many of us throw in the towel and start divorce proceedings. There is an old adage `once a cheater, always a cheater`, but before you do anything hear them out. This may open a whole can of worms and you may hear things that you don`t like, but honesty is vital and at least then you can make an informed decision and not rush into something you may later regret.

If there is no specific reason for you considering divorce, again don`t rush into anything. How long have you felt like this? How do you feel when you look at your partner? Sit down and think how you would feel if your partner wasn`t there anymore. Consider all the little things that you used to love about them, do you still love them or are they just infuriating now? Divorce is a very painful and very final experience to go through, and should never be rushed into. By keeping the lines of communication open and discussing things honestly and openly a lot of divorces could be avoided. Inevitably, some marriages will run their course and result in divorce, but if your marriage can be saved, do your best not to become just another statistic.