Eradicating your inner wuss

Do you have one of your friends that you hang around with constantly complaining about how he/she can't find a date? It gets old doesn't it? We all know people that are basically good individuals but can't seem to find a date. Well it's time to learn some tips on how to present yourself and get the date of your dreams.

1. The Inner You- The biggest reason most people can't find dates is because they don't like themselves. Your body language and non-verbal cues tell a lot about your personal confidence level. If you don't have confidence, then fake it. The best way to acquire confidence is through experience. Join a club, sport or hobby. Take a job like a waiter or salesperson that requires to you interacts with people. You will never get anywhere in life until you can love and accept yourself first.

2. Overcoming Shyness- Practice makes perfect. Try making a list of affirmations like "I am a strong confident individual" or "I do not tolerate disrespect of my time, self or property." These affirmations will strengthen your sub-conscience. Say them every day. Try to talk with at least 1 new stranger per day. Work on making conversation skills a little bit at a time.

3. Finding the Location- Getting a Date requires getting over your fear of rejection. The best ways to meet someone are not in bars or clubs but in your daily interactions. Restaurants, cafés, supermarkets, library, bookstore, school, clubs or even just standing in line are all great places to find romance.

4. Showing Interest- The best thing you can do is walk up to the person you like (even if you do not know them) and say Hello. Be not threatening and smile. Ask the potential date an opinion question or comment on something they are doing. Be as natural as possible with the conversation. Remember to smile and stand with straight confident body language. Look them in the eyes and really listen. If all else fails be completely honest and say "I thought you looked like an interesting person by shirt you are wearing and thought I would introduce myself." Where did you get it and why? Then simply ask if he/she wants to grab a quick coffee or exchange phone numbers.

5. Get a Perfect 10- I am going to let you on a little secret. Extremely beautiful people don't get asked out as much as you think. Most normal people think really hot women have Fabio as a boyfriend and go yachting every weekend. Wrong! Really attractive people don't get asked out as much because most people are afraid to ask. Even if you're ugly you can approach a Perfect 10. More times than not they will be blown away by your confidence and go out with you. They will think you have something going on that separates you from everyone else.

Finding a date really isn't as hard as most people build it up in their heads to be.