Positive child discipline would clear up a lot of the problems that mothers and fathers have with their young children, they would just need to give i...
Positive child discipline would clear up a lot of the problems that mothers and fathers have with their young children,
they would just need to give it a try. And for this to occur, they'd need to confess that what they're carrying out is not operating well, and then be open to attempting something new. We'll talk about this and much more, so please read along.
It seems that most parents go to either one extreme or another, when it comes to disciplining their children. Some folks are very, very strict, while many are very lax, and impose hardly any boundaries. Of course, most people's own experience are in the middle somewhere.
Considering that teenage delinquency is at such high rates, as well as drug and alcohol usage, there is definitely some issues here that need to be addressed. Hopefully you are not experiencing these issues, but even if you are not, it is always possible that what is going on with your children, might be the beginnings of them going down these roads.
Now, most folks aren't like myself. They don't have a lot of time to devote to trying to help many people, and to tell you the truth, that's not how I started either. I was having issues with my children, following my divorce, and someone suggested to me that I would be a lot more effective if I would stop yelling at, and intimidating my kids. Turns out, the old saying, you can catch more bees with honey, is surely true.
Needless to say, issues did not get far better in one night. They didn't even seem to become far better in a couple of months. Really they had, I just hadn't realized it simply because I saw my kids all the time, so I couldn't detect a lot of difference. Soon enough I realized that I did not have to ask them over and over, to try and do the things that I asked them to try and do. We also didn't get into screaming fights every five minutes anymore.
So what really happened. Effectively, I was lucky because I had a lot of perseverance. Basically, I used positive child discipline. I took the time to explain to my children why I required them to accomplish specific things. Much more importantly, I took the time to listen to them, and also to really unconditionally love them. I treated them as people, not things that ought to be seen and never heard.
As I said, I was fortunate, and that's due to the fact I have really good children. I was also lucky due to the fact I was just following some instincts about constructive parenting that just appeared to be correct. I had no idea if things would be alright. I was also fortunate because I also took positive action prior to things being too out of control.
One more circumstance that was in my favor was that I had a position at my job that I only worked 30 hours every week, and, I used to be around throughout the day, so I was able to invest a whole lot of time with my children. Most people are not in a position to do this.
