If you’re having a hard time with disciplining your child, you might not need a complete parenting course. With just a few well selected words, expres...
If you’re having a hard time with disciplining your child,
you might not need a complete parenting course. With just a few well selected words, expressed lovingly could start to bring your "terrible two year old child" back to a "terrific toddler."
Here are useful Parenting Tips for Toddler Tantrums
1. Speak in a quiet, adult voice and with an eye-contact
When speaking with your child, do so like you really mean it! That does not mean yelling. You child wants to be communicated lovingly and directly even he is only two, three, or five years old.
2. Don’t draw-out nag your child; just try one word reminder
Instead of saying, "How many times do I have to tell you to place your dirty clothes in the laundry basket? That is not a difficult thing to do!" Just a simple word, "Clothes," is enough to remind the child what needs to be done without the rhetorical questioning.
3. Avoid negative words such as "Quit...", "Stop...", and "Don't..."
Studies have shown that all of us are inclined to "hearing" just the end of such words. So whenever we say, "Stop mocking!", the brain hears, "mocking!" You yourself could see how this works. If you hear, "don't think of a red elephant!" your brain first has to visualize what it should not be thinking of!
Phrase what you wanted to say in the positive way like "Please let’s not be too much noisy inside the house", "Play nicely." or "Use quiet steps."
4. Offer your child choices, but make sure to choose your choices intelligently! If you say, "Why don’t you want to eat?" you do not really need to answer the "why." What you want is our child’s behavior. Instead, "after you eat your meal, let us brush your teeth."
5. Change the focus!
I actually don’t like this kind of communication since it felt like tricking my children. However, if your toddler is disintegrating into his tantrums, you can best calm the situation by diverting his mind. "I want that toy!" and started to lay down on the floor crying became giggles with a simple attention diverted, tantrum avoided like "Hey! look at that mascot!" See how your kids too naturally change their moods in the blink of an eye.
6. Communicating with your child could be one of the best things you did out of your whole day, and the most worthwhile parts of parenthood. By making use of some simple parenting techniques that use advanced communication methods, you could get your child back to enjoying smooth communication and good behavior.
Always remember you are the adult. In many situations, we, as adults, are encountering the shame of our children, as much as possible; we want to take that out on our child. Between you and your child, remember YOU ARE THE GROWN UP! Once you disregard that and begin shouting at your child, you’re a looser. Even though you don’t follow the request of your child, he/ she wins when you throw back your tantrum.
