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Speak From the Heart

I recently had the pleasure of participating in a workshop in Los Angeles with 150 others who, like myself, want to hone their skills as a trainer. One of our instructors was Les Brown. I had h...

I recently had the pleasure of participating in a workshop in Los Angeles with 150 others who, like myself, want to hone their skills as a trainer. One of our instructors was Les Brown. I had heard this inspirational man speak before, but never had the opportunity to meet him in person.

His love, passion and energy filled each of us with possibility. He taught us about the power of speaking from the heart.

Communication in divorce is so important. Mr. Brown's invited us "speak from the heart." I realized how often, particularly in face of potential conflict, I want to speak from my head instead. Speaking from my head makes me feel safer. It makes me feel clever at times. Have you ever had to make a request and felt you had to give reasons for what you want and why? That would be your head talking there. But in the emotionally charged arena of divorce, intellectual arguments often do not win the day or get you what you want.

We are always communicating with someone, whether it's our children, our ex-partners, our friends, our lawyers, ourselves. Many people are skilled at speaking "from their heads." What would our relationships be like if we were willing to speak from the heart? Yes, it would require a willingness to be vulnerable to another. Yes, you may find some raw emotions coming up when you speak openly and honestly from your heart. I suspect this is why so many people aren't comfortable with it. It feels safer and more in control to speak from your head, instead of your heart.

But think of a time someone spoke to you from their heart. Perhaps it was a child speaking to you of their fears. Maybe a friend shared about their sense of powerlessness with a problem they were having. That authentic vulnerability likely opened your heart up to a deeper listening to them. Sharing from your heart creates a strong sense of connection between the speaker and the listener.

My invitation to you is to simply notice where you tend to speak from. Are you speaking from your head or your heart? Identify one relationship that you might be struggling with right now and where you'd be willing to speak from your heart. Use the phrase, "What I'm really feeling is..." to get you started. Try it on as a new behavior. The worst thing that could happen is that your relationships don't improve. The alternative is that you'd create a whole new way of relating to another, and allow your authentic self to be heard.

As Les Brown saidHealth Fitness Articles, "Who you are behind the words is more important than the words you speak."

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Success Strategist, coach and best-selling author, Carolyn B. Ellis, is the founder of ThriveAfterDivorce.com, created for divorced people who want to stop struggling and start thriving. To get free tips on every aspect of living through a divorce, from legal issues to single parenting to getting back into the dating world, visit www.ThriveAfterDivorce.com



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