Breast Augmentation - How to Tell Your Kids

When you have come to the point where you realize that breast augmentation is the right solution to your needs, and decide to go forward with surgery, there are a few little people that you need to tell – your kids. Chances are high that it is because of your kids, or at least the changes that occurred during pregnancy and breastfeeding, that you are considering the surgery in the first place. The way in which you tell your kids will have a tremendous impact on how they view their own bodies in the future.

First, you may want to consider whether it is worth telling them at all. This will depend largely on your kids. Very small children may not need to know what the surgery is, just that you are having surgery. Older children who are unlikely to notice the change, particularly if you are not going very large, may be able to be left without knowing the full extent of your surgery. But, if they are likely to notice the change, then you need to tell them.

Even if you do not tell them the full extent of your surgery, you do need to tell them that you are having surgery. They are going to notice that mom is not able to perform all of her regular functions. Make sure that they know that you are not hurt or sick, but you are doing something optional that will make you feel better. 

If you do tell your children, be open about your reasons for the surgery. Make sure that they understand why you feel you need the surgery. For instance, explain to them the changes that occur in a woman’s body when she has a baby, especially in her breasts. Explain that breast augmentation will simply put your body back like it was. 

Make sure you explain what the recovery is going to be like. It can be very unsettling for kids to see their moms not acting normal. If they understand that you will need a few weeks of rest and will not be able to play or pick them up like you normally do, they will have an easier time. Assure them that after you heal, you will be back to your normal self.

Be particularly careful if you have preteen or teenage girls. These children are particularly vulnerable to self-esteem issues. Make sure they understand that you know the surgery is not going to make you a better person or change the way people view you. Tell them it is simply something that you are choosing to do to feel better about yourself or to reverse some changes that occurred because you are a mom. 

Finally, answer your children’s questions about breast augmentation if they have any. Most kids will accept your explanations and move on, but some will have questions. Be as honest as you can without scaring your kids or making them have body image problems, and you should be able to come out on top after the surgery.