During the past decade, numerous television series have sensationalized the divorce process. Thanks in part to the writers of those television series, we members of the viewing public now have a skewed perception of the divorce process - we misperceive the divorce process as being 'exciting', 'vigorous', and 'glamorous'...
During the past decade, numerous television series have sensationalized the divorce process. Thanks in part to the writers of those television series, we members of the viewing public now have a skewed perception of the divorce process - we misperceive the divorce process as being 'exciting', 'vigorous', and 'glamorous'.
As a divorce attorney, let me shoot straight with you....there is nothing exciting, vigorous, or glamorous about the divorce process or the justice system in general. If you do not believe me, you are welcome to shadow me to work one day. Our day will begin at the Tulsa County Courthouse where, once you start to look around, you will see that the divorce attorneys who practice in real life bear zero resemblance to the divorce attorneys you see on television.
On television the divorce attorneys wear $2000.00 suits. On television divorce attorneys use 'shark-like' tactics and behave in a way that is 'cut-throat'. Those are the same television divorce attorneys who exclaim to all who can hear their arrogant voice 'I do not care about the consequences, I only care about winning'. Reality check, this is not television court ...it is Real Life Court.
In Real Life Court, a divorce attorney who wears a $300.00 suit is considered 'high-end'. In Real Life Court, a divorce attorney who uses 'shark-like' tactics is perceived by his colleagues as being 'unprofessional' and he quickly becomes stigmatized by his own reputation. In Real Life Court, you do not hear divorce attorneys talk about 'the win', you hear them talk about 'the settlement'. The settlement is reached outside of court, according to terms that work well for both spouses.
