No one’s perfect, but some personality quirks will lead to the divorce lawyer. Do any of these seem familiar?
If you or your future spouse has any of these personality quirks,
a divorce lawyer may be in your future. No one is perfect but there are some things more troublesome than others. When two individuals decide to tie the knot, they should do a bit of self reflection to see if they have some work to do on their own imperfections or if their spouse-to-be’s flaws will be problematic over time. When people live together in marriage or as common-law partners, the tiny things may suddenly grow immense and insurmountable. Here are some red flags that brides-to-be and grooms-to-be should take heed of:
- Dishonesty:
o In yourself: If you are basically an honest person but finding yourself lying or hiding things from your future spouse, this is a huge red flag. You must take a look at the reasons behind your dishonesty. Are you afraid of his or her reaction or of showing your vulnerable sides? This will be a huge stumbling block to intimacy.
o In your partner: If you can’t trust the person you’ll be tying your life to, you don’t have a foundation to build a marriage. Trust is number one and if you can’t trust your partner, your partnership is doomed.
- Jealousy:
o In yourself: If your future husband or wife gives you reasons to be jealous as in seeing others behind your back, give them up now. If there isn’t any real reason, seek counseling for yourself to figure out why you’re so insecure.
o In him/her: If you’ve given him or her a reason to be jealous, you might not be ready for tying the marital knot. If their jealousy is unfounded, this might be a red flag that they will be a controlling, difficult husband or wife, and a divorce lawyer may have to step in.
- Substance abuse:
o In yourself: Try to clean up your act before joining your life with another person. It will be difficult to have a successful union, raise a family and be partners if you’re always seeking your next drink or fix.
o In your partner: If he or she is in recovery, then a marital relationship can work. If not, spare yourself the “I can fix him/her” mentality and get out before it’s too late.
- Physical or verbal abuse:
o In yourself: If you are abusive physically or verbally to anyone, including your fiancé or fiancée, you’re not emotionally healthy enough to get married. Seek counseling until you iron out these destructive tendencies.
o In her/him: Even if your true love hasn’t been abusive to you, if you’ve observed her or him being verbally or physically abusive to others, your number will come up eventually. Unless they get help, just say no.
Marriage is hard enough in the best of circumstances. If you or the person you’re thinking of marrying has any of these behaviors, you or they need to get counseling to change the pattern or the marital relationship will be on the highway to heck. The first turnoff after your “I do’s” will be at the divorce lawyer.
