The Ugliness Behind Domestic Violence

One's beliefs and culture while growing up are very instrumental in shaping one's perception when it comes to domestic violence. There are certain acts that are considered to be taboo in some cultures, such as hitting a woman, or a man being hit by a woman. When a fight breaks out, one of the parties involved should step up to the plate and take the blame. It will be the female party who will be taking this action. Submissiveness to one's husband is quite a normal scenario when you look at some cultures where women are set in their "rightful place", so to speak. Since it is already embedded in their cultural makeup, these women will endure being treated badly in their own homes. It is also seen by the husbands as their right to inflict some pain on their wives in order to show them who is really the one in control in the relationship. 
Some cases have shown great personal imbalances within both the victim and the abuser. If you look at some of the abused, you will see that many of them are actually looking for reasons-any reason-to fight with their spouse. They fill pleasure in fighting and take it as an affirmation and expression of true feeling of love. They think that it is not a real relationship if there are no fights or arguments. If we look at the abusers, it will be noted how they are actually enjoying themselves when they get into a fight. They do love their spouse. However, it is in their nature to be violent, and they prefer to express themselves through acts of violence and inflicting pain and injuries. Such statics about domestic violence have been used in court as substantive reasons why an accused batter his or her spouse and they walk free.
When dealing with this problem, there are a number of legal implications to be considered. Often, there isn't a lot of support when it comes to cases of domestic violence, not even if the police and other legal institutions do step in to try to help. Often, investigations into such crimes just come to a stop when there are not enough injuries to sustain it and the victims seemingly lose interest in pursuing the case. The legal approach taken to deal with domestic violence is also a negative blow in dealing with this vise. No records of these cases are kept in the United States, and the victim will remain incognito despite the abuser being locked behind bars.
Many cases of domestic violence will never see the light of day, and forever remain in the dark. This is especially true in close-knit families who keep things close to their chests. Often, you will have an abuser who, on the outside, seems to be such a loving and protective person when it comes to his family. The moment he is discovered for what he is-and abuser-not a lot of people would be willing to address it properly despite their shock at the discovery. After all, they do not want to get involved in a private family matter. This remains to be the ugly fact about domestic violence.