Tulsa Divorce Attorney - How To Maintain Sanity Throughout The Divorce Process

Let me be honest up front, divorce can be a very complicated process.  Even before you and your ex officially separate, the uneasiness of the situation looms in your stomach.   Between the time of separation and the time of the filing of the divorce, the uneasiness is intensified because of the high level of uncertainty that exists in the situation.  Once the divorce gets filed and the litigation process gets underway, you will experience one to three months of continued uneasiness. 

The good news is that after that one to three month, the divorce process typically gets a little easier.  At that point in time, your attorney has had sufficient communication with the ex’s attorney and you and the ex have probably began to settle some of the unresolved issues.

For purposes of this article, the million dollar question is ‘how do you maintain your sanity throughout the early stages of the divorce?’  Below is a list of four tips.  These four tips are our advice to you about how to navigate those treacherous early stages all the while maintaining your sanity. 

Our hope is that you will read each one of the four tips, thoroughly familiarize yourself with them, and then implement them into your divorce situation.

Tip Number One – Communicate Openly With Members Of Your Inner Circle.  Most everyone of us has an inner circle of family members and close friends who we know and trust.  During the early stages of the divorce, you should communicate openly with each member of your inner circle in order to inform them about the serious of the situation with your ex.  If they truly care about you, they will be there to support you throughout the process.

Tip Number Two – Try To Settle The Divorce.  Spouses who work to settle their divorce without engaging in long, drawn out litigation end up much happier in the end (generally speaking).  By working towards settlement, hopefully you and your spouse will be able to finalize the divorce within a relatively short amount of time which will save both of you a lot of resources.

Tip Number Three – Be Careful Who You Get Advice From.  We all know a co-worker, family member, or friend who is constantly giving free advice about pretty much every topic under the sun.  Whenever you tell this individual about the pending divorce, they will tell you about their divorce (sparing little detail) and they will proceed to tell how you should proceed with your divorce.  Keep in mind, free advice is worth what you pay for it.  If this individual is a very close co-worker, family member, or friend who you know and trust, then by all means follow their advice, but if they are not, well, you get the hint.

Tip Number Four – Hire An Attorney Who You Like.  You would be surprised at the number of people who hire an attorney who they are uncomfortable around.  Keep in mind, from the time you hire the attorney until the time that you finalize the divorce, the attorney and you will be working very closely together and at points in time will discuss some of the most intimate details of your life.  Make sure that you hire an attorney who you like and feel comfortable working around.  Doing so will help the divorce process flow a lot smoother.