Tulsa Divorce Lawyer - How To Win

If you are reading this article, then there is a high likelihood that you are considering filing for divorce or have already filed for divorce.  The reality of divorce is that is can be long and bitter.  The other reality of divorce is that it can be short and sweet. 

In divorce, there is a lot of talk about ‘winning’.  Our perception of ‘winning’ as it applies in divorce court is based mostly on what we see and hear in the media.  One notable divorce that received a lot of attention in the media recently is that of the McCourts.  In case you did not already know, the McCourts own the Los Angeles Dodgers (professional baseball team).  During the divorce, at one point in time, Mrs. McCourt was trying to have a prenuptial agreement declared void so that she could ‘win’ ownership of the Los Angeles Dodgers.

As a member of the viewing public, a  ot can be learned from the McCourt saga about how to be a ‘winner’ in divorce court.  For example the McCourts’ case has lasted years and has cost an exorbitant amount of dollars in attorney fees.  Additionally, the McCourt saga has caused the demise of the Los Angeles Dodgers baseball company, which was (once upon a time) a very proud company to work for.

All that being said, if you are reading this article and you want to learn how to be a winner in divorce court, then take our advice and keep reading.  Below, we explain to you the real definition of ‘winning’ in divorce court.  Our hope is that by reading the rest of this article, you will gain some perspective and will be able to finalize yourself without a lot of pain or further heartache.

What it means to ‘win’ in divorce court: winning in divorce court is not about you receiving everything you asked for.  If you have gone through a divorce in the past and you received everything that you asked for, then chances are one of two things occurred: number one – your ex was a whimp and a total pushover (very unlikely) or number two – you fought teeth and toe nails until the bitter end and ultimately won at trial (which lasted several days).

Winning in divorce court is about compromise.  This is especially true in cases where there are young children involved.  Keep in mind, you and your ex are going to have to interact with each other for years to come about matters that involve the children.  Being mindful of the future and of your children’s well being, it makes sense for you not to use ‘scorched Earth tactics’ during the divorce process because doing so will probably cause irreparable harm to the relationship that exists between you and your ex as parents.

When you compromise during divorce, regardless of whether you are compromising on the issue of child custody or on other issues like property division, the goal is to give a little bit on each one of the unresolved issues, but at the same time, do not give so much that the final terms of the settlement are uncomfortable or create a hardship for you.

By giving a little bit on each one of the unresolved issues, our hope is that you and your ex will be able to reach a full and final settlement and that you will be able to do so without having to drag the divorce case out for a long time and spend thousands of dollars on attorney fees.