How to Save a Marriage -- 5 Tips That Breathe New Life Into a Stale Marriage
Is your married life getting a little stale and tiresome? Is the joy and spontaneity gone? Or have things gotten to the point where you and your spouse are going for each other's throats more and more...
The first tip is to decide what you want out of the marriage. That means you need to set goals -- realistic goals. They need to be reachable. Any goal that you set up that is not reachable is a catastrophe waiting to happen and will only result in frustration. You also have to make sure that your goals are measurable so that you can actually see whether or not you're making any headway. And your goals need to be sensible. Having a joint bank account containing three million dollars within six months would not be a reasonable goal for most people. Although the amount might be reasonable in some cases, I don't think the six month time frame would be.
The second tip is to realize that you and your spouse are not always going to agree on everything. You're two different people with different ideas and different expectations. This being so, you're going to have to learn the art of compromise. Yes, it can be learned. It might not be easy but it can be done. The idea that the two of you are going to have differing ideas on a lot of things is a fact of life. It's normal. Get over it!
Which brings us to the third tip -- learn to communicate! This is not optional. A marriage without communication is doomed to failure. How can you let your spouse know your ambitions and your dreams if you can't communicate these things? How can you begin to begin to cooperate if you can't communicate these things?
Learn to keep work at work. Don't bring your job home with you. That's the fourth tip. Don't make your family the scapegoat for your frustrations at work. They don't deserve to be abused or disrespected for things they had nothing to do with. Instead of coming home all stressed out or full of anger, take some time during the trip home to settle down and put a smile on your face. There is no job in the world worth losing your family over.
And last but probably the most important, lighten up! Stop taking yourself so seriously. We have lost the ability to laugh at ourselves. If we can find this attribute again it will do wonders for our ability to loosen up and be able to draw closer to the ones we love.
Are these five tips able to save a marriage? In all probability, not by themselves, but they are a great place to start. As you practice the tips found above you will become more comfortable with yourself and with your spouse. This alone will open the door for a more satisfying relationship.
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